How to Move On from Unrequited Love

Another major one is focusing pretty heavily on yourself. I noticed you’re neurodivergent. This means that this person could very well have become a hyperfixation for you, and the way to deal with this is by replacing it with new hyperfixation. A new hyperfixation will leave you with much less time to think about the person, and you’ll get excited about things other than that person. Some new ones for me are hydroponic gardening, DIYing clothing/visible mending, and jewelry making. If any of those sound interesting to you, feel free to message me and I’ll help you figure out how to get into them!

*just another person with human flaws.

Do you know what an “ick” is? It’s where you find something someone does distasteful. It can be big or small, deep or shallow. Big examples are emotional unavailability, putting little effort into keeping conversations going, having different values than you (look at politics, religion, etc). Small examples are things like picking their nose, pants are too loose and you can see their crack when their shirt rides up, etc. The best way I’ve gotten over people I haven’t dated is by changing my mindset from simply admiring them to actively paying attention to any “icks.” I know it sounds so judgemental, but what it’s doing is working on tearing down the sort of perfect person you’ve created them to be in your head, and making them back into just another person with human flaws.