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Bonjo

680d

I need some help I can't seem to talk to my husband and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells at home. What do I do to get over this?

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    • Bonjo

      600d

      @Oarfish yes we are doing individual counseling and eventually will start couples counseling but my counselor feels i need to work on myself first to build myself up

    • Oarfish

      600d

      I grew up with parents that always fight and have an unhealthy relationship. From my perspective of what you're describing, it sounds like a very unhealthy relationship that you two have. You shouldn't have to feel unsafe at home or that you can't go to your husband and communicate with him. You shouldn't have to fear your husband's reaction. Put yourself first. You deserve to feel happy and safe at home with your husband. If your husband is up for it, marriage counseling could help a lot.

      • Bonjo

        600d

        @Oarfish yes we are doing individual counseling and eventually will start couples counseling but my counselor feels i need to work on myself first to build myself up

    • Siobhann

      673d

      Consider a couples counselor that will help guide the conversations. Write him a note

    • poodlelover28

      673d

      Just think, if you open up about how you're feeling there's always the chance he will understand and will try to come up with a solution, possibly even provide reassurance for you. Even if it's not right away, he could eventually come around and do these things BUT if you don't talk to him, you'll never know! When you're with the right person, communication is often flows much smoother than what your gut is telling you how it'll go. At least this is how things are with my fiancée. I know I can come to her with any issues I'm having and I don't have to worry about "what if she leaves me?". It's the beauty of a healthy relationship. I've been in so many toxic relationships and now that I am in a healthy relationship I am finally able to communicate freely without worrying about if it'll jeopardize our relationship or cause some big fight that goes in circles. That's how things should be! I hope this helped even a little.

    • PibblesandTea

      673d

      I have adhd as well as bipolar & I have a very hard time with talking to my partner. I always think he's mad at me. Which annoys him. So I gi into shut down mode. Don't be like me keep the lines of communication open

      • Bonjo

        600d

        @PibblesandTea that's just it if I say something to him im always worried he is going to snap at me

    • Natdacat

      679d

      I'm very open with my husband but sometimes he just gets annoyed with me and just expects me to ignore everything.

    • Tanzanite

      680d

      My husband and I met online and we got to know each other by texting. Now, 10 years later, when I struggle to talk to him, I text him or write him a note. It's a good way for me to get whatever I need to say, out to him and it also gives him the chance to think about it before he comes to talk to me. I hope this helps you 💜

      • Bonjo

        677d

        @Tanzanite oh if I even wrote it down he would just text me and whine like a baby and I end up saying maybe I just need to leave if I make you so unhappy. He leaves and I go to bed

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