Dealing with Post-Breakup Resentment

i feel this. when i left my main group of friends, it was a very sad feeling, but then it slowly turned to this anger towards them for not trying to keep me around or help our situation. time only grows anger. as the event gets further away, your opinions shift. and for most people, it shifts to the angry thoughts, and then you mostly forget about it. its just part of the grief

Yeah that’s totally relatable and a very human thing. What I have learned over the past few years is dealing with feelings you have about people is no joke. It can consume your life if you let it. I had a girlfriend over two years ago now and she broke up with me not because of anything I did, and I remember her constantly tell me that I wasn’t the problem. We parted ways in good terms, but we soon stopped talk to each other. Today she is in another relationship and the thing is she had the strength to move on and I thought I did at first, but then as if it was 2 years late I started to become utterly consumed in grief. A part of me desperately wanted her back and another part resented her because I felt she enjoyed the privilege of being with someone while I was left alone. To add onto that, I was going through gender dysphoria which confused me even more about who I was. Today I sometimes still feel some grief, but I think it’s important to view them with indifference with acknowledging they will always have a special place in your heart. I think once you can do this, I think it will be much easier to move on. It will take time, years for me. But there will come a day when the time is right. In the meantime, find people and things to do that bring you joy and lessen the time you have to think about him. For what it is worth, hope this helps :))

Honestly I feel you. When me and my ex broke up it was really hard for me and he moved on within a month. And I was really angry and sad bcuz he hurt me alot and he just moved on . I almost felt as if he didn't deserve to move on and be happy. That he should hurt like me. But as time went on slowly I started to let it go and move on with my life. But it was a veryyyy slow process. As of rn I would never be with him again and I actually find it laughable I ever liked him. Just give yourself time to heal and you won't feel bitter anymore. And don't feel rushed to heal take as long as you need :)