Struggling to Stay Positive Around Negative Partner

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BeBeth, real simple, I stay away from all negativity, no matter who or what. No having it in my life. It means being alone at times but I'll take the trade. So much better off also for this. Just saying...

He tells me ALL the time I won't survive on my own & threatens to burn my home down or totally destroy it. I mean when he's in a good mood its GREAT but its not much at all. I have lost so much of who I was when I got with him its not even funny. Like I was very positive, reading the Bible, praying, just happy to be alive. Now I'm NOTHING like I was. But I have told him to leave he won't. Tbh he had a HORRIBLE & I mean horrible childhood. He had it VERY hard, I have tried for years to just understand that & just ignore the anger & yelling & negativity, but its starting to happen more & more. I am literally ready to jump off a bridge(not literally, would never kill myself!!)or crawl into a ball & cry for weeks. I just have worked very hard for my sobriety & mental health. I WONT let him drag me down!!!

I'm so sorry, but this guy sounds toxic. You need someone who understands and appreciates you. I've been there. I had to end an engagement, and it was hard. However, it led to something so much better. Sending positive vibes your way ❤️

I understand when you love someone and you want to help them. But the others on here are right. If someone doesn't want to change or is not ready, nothing you can do will make any difference. You have to protect your own mental health and well-being first. You can't pour from an empty cup. Sometimes, as much as it hurts, you have to acknowledge that someone is not healthy for you and leave them, even though you love them. It breaks your heart, and I speak from personal experience, but it is definitely worth it, and things will get better. Be brave, and advocate for yourself.

I couldn't deal with a constant negative person, but I'm the negative person in my life. My husband is positive overall. I swing towards negativity. He tries to bring me out of my bad moods and usually it works. But I have to want to change. If your fiance doesn't want to try to be positive, he'll never change.

I agree with walk away. It's not worth your health if he's that negative of a person. If he truly cared you'd think he would realize how he's acting.

Please do not waste your life in a toxic relationship. You'll feel so much better on your own. Focus on self healing.

Commonly men aren't like that , usually it's our task to fix our mood and partner's , I'm sorry for what you going through but it is a shame.