Ruining Relationships Due to Trauma

I did that 3 or 4 years ago. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship which I was used to at that point and the guy who took me in I fell in love with but I wasn't used to healthy relationships and freaked out and dumped him couple days later I was retruamatized when my mother falsely accused me of neglect and legally kidnapped my 6 month old daughter. The guy I fell in love with was still hurting from the break up and I took out my problems on him. We recently dated again after having a conversation about that not being who I was and just coping with trauma very poorly the only way I knew how without therapy at the time but we recently broke up because I traumatized him in the past and he can't move past it now. And I'm heart broken and keep hating myself cause I fucked up

I have cptsd and am starting to feel the toll it can take on a relationship. My boyfriend is the kindest, sweetest, and most caring person I’ve ever met but even he has a limit. Despite spending every waking moment trying to get myself out of this dark place, I still cry, get upset, and have panic attacks nearly every day and don’t want to go out and do things with him. And when we do I usually get overhwelmed and ruin it. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too but you’re not alone 🤗 ❤️

relationship problems are common among trauma survivors and especially common among those with complex trauma. you are absolutely not alone, this is something we almost universally struggle with.