Dealing with My Mom's Drama

My therapist really helped me with this in my situation my mom used to take me on emotional rollercoaster rides And then after she'd got me thoroughly upset and crying with her then she'd be okay. It really took some honest conversation and a very loving and polite way of excusing myself I was lucky enough that it was over the phone and I was able to hang up with love but it's much harder in person. Sometimes a therapist will have some good insight into how to extricate yourself from these kind of exhausting emotional encounters that you aren't able to handle right now. Sounds like Mom needs someone to talk to as well without hurting her feelings there's probably a really nice way of telling her that she would benefit from having someone professional to talk to you instead of just another person that can't really help her overcome her stress and anxiety herself. Those are hard conversations and I know that they can feel damaging at first. I tried explaining to a friend that was doing a similar thing that I and my opinion and my conversation and my listening was like a first responder I can very obviously help you I can save your life even but in order for you to get better we have to get you on the ambulance and we have to get you to the doctors who can really help you because all I'm doing is patching you up and putting you back out and that's not ultimately what's going to be the most helpful

get emotionally exhausted, I have the need to help her at the same time **

i’m in the same situation but because i’m too emotional i feel her feelings way too deeply and get emotionally exhausted and have the need to help her at the same time /:

I have been in a similar spot. You just have to be open and honest with them. If they love you they will stop doing what they are doing that is making you upset. Hope this helps!