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SpookyKitten

498d

After losing my father suddenly this year ( 5 months ago), the holidays seem not so holly or jolly. How can I get through the holidays without having a major breakdown or an anxiety attack?

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    • dolphinblues

      497d

      @1_lucky_gma I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine the pain of losing a child. πŸ«‚ πŸ™ πŸ™ I pray you may find peace in your memories of him, not only through Christmas time, but every day.

    • SweetTea77

      498d

      It's difficult. Holidays aren't always easy for some. I'm a recent divorce single mom. I'm having quite a difficult time adjusting to the new norm as well. I can only tell you what did or didn't work for me. I get attacks often and they can be aggressive. I believe, I CHOOSE to believe this is part of the process I must go through. I had to, and at times still have to, mourn the death of who I was because my life felt like an illusion. I was disappointed in myself and others. But once I went through the bulk of understanding I shouldn't be so hard on myself, I learned to accept my faults, learn from them and tweak myself to be the best version of myself. The problem as you point out is time. Funny thing... Time. We feel like we don't have enough or it can go by slow. The reality of time is it's the one contestant on our lives. It still ticks on regardless of where we are in our life journey, regardless of what we are going through or experiencing. Eventually the holidays are here and we have yet established a new normal. What does it look like? I only know I have a say in how it looks. I find the will power to create a new normal in the eyes of my child. I must every bit of strength so that hopefully I hear things from that child that help me feel better. He can make me feel like I'm going down the right path. He's 11. You can find strength anywhere. If it's not within your walls of the office or home, think outside the box. Volunteer for your community in honor of your loved one. Perhaps the perspective with seeing how we aren't alone and sharing stories with me people will help you in your process???

    • 1_lucky_gma

      498d

      I struggle with Christmas (3rd year). My 5 year old autistic grandson passed away in a horrible accident Christmas day 2019. I just can't handle it. People talk about the holiday with such excitement and I just shut down more and more.

      • dolphinblues

        497d

        @1_lucky_gma I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine the pain of losing a child. πŸ«‚ πŸ™ πŸ™ I pray you may find peace in your memories of him, not only through Christmas time, but every day.

    • dolphinblues

      498d

      I'm wondering the same thing. My dad passed in January. Im worried about not only making it through Christmas but the anniversary of his death. My heart goes out to you. Hopefully we both can find some answers. πŸ™ πŸ«‚

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