My Family is a Nightmare: A Venting Session

I understand this. I'm going through this right now. I'm here to listen. I sometimes feel worthless if I don't do the whole "Mom" thing. And they leave 98% if not more to me. I have two grown children who love at home and we have a relative living with us who does try to help but yeah, this hits on many levels.

Thank you Piper2022.

thank you, for your opinion, and yes it's very true. What makes me sad it's that I have to get sick for me to open my eyes. And see if I'm not healthy, I'm just a burden to them. And I can't leave now. But thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I'm so sorry to hear what you're all suffering. My husband can be very difficult as well. But he does help, he just resents it. He often gets very angry at me for not doing more. Someone said that people would treat us as bad as we let them, and that is unfortunately, very true. From what I have observed, it's the people that give and give and give that end up sick. I wonder if there is any connection? We give and give until we make ourselves sick, and then when we can't keep giving to those around us that expect us to keep giving, they get upset with us. My humble opinion is that those of us that are givers need to learn how to take. Unfortunately, by the time we're sick, we usually don't have any energy left to learn how to take for ourselves. I have a great counselor who has been helping me through this difficult time. She lets me vent, she encourages me to stand up for myself where I can, and is helping me learn to take care of myself in spite of my husband's demands. God bless you all and may He Grant us peace and strength and an understanding family. 🙏

Hi, I just wondering if we are in the same boat. is it like that with all of us? My Issue started when I had 2 surgeries. My husband told me That he don't want to be with me. That he will be my roommate. He moved to the living room. Everything because I told them that I can't do everything in the house anymore. My stepdaughter, move away because I told her not to be in the damn game all the time. And do more around the house, she is a 30 years old woman, right now not working. Just sitting at home just waking up at 3:00 pm.and then play games online. Waiting for me to get home and cook dinner. So yes I know what all of you guys are going thru. My doctor says that I"m depressed and my anxiety level are to the roof. He send me to a therapist. But it's was a bad experience for me.I think she saw me as a woman who want to be getting a disability check. When I just want a person to listen to me.

They know. My 4 grown children don't help either. Even when my hubby had a stroke. Hell, my youngest says hates me and now I watch my grandson on Thursdays so she can be at work an hour early for her new position at work. Hubby thinks he's on vacation everyday. He still works but like you he say in better when hot meal on table and dishes in dishwasher done. They think I'm on a vacation. I wish I could work and say " the hell with all of you I'm either gone or get a health aide to help me. Not so fun doing the basic stuff. I dont get out of bed till an hour before he gets home after being up all night. Good luck . I feel your pain. 😔

no offense to anyone, but your kids have got to go if they don't do anything around the house. i was doing chores as soon as i could understand what cleaning was. you need to tell them what to do, and that they won't have a home if they don't do it. (while you're at it tell them they need to treat their mental illness if they want to stick around.) and you need to lay into your husband and tell him to get off his ***. it shouldn't have to be your responsibility to do that, but nothing will change if you don't unless you leave. the more you let them treat you like this, the worse and worse it will get.

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I wonder why so many people in chronic pain, experience emotional pain from family members. I was an excellent housekeeper before I got diagnosed for Lupus in 2005. I still do the worst things first. Like physical therapy to me. I keep a positive mind and not add gas to a fire. God is watching from a distance is my motto. You reap what you sew. Respect and Love will get us along way. Hug tight my good friend.

Oh my goodness. I know exactly what you speak of. Not my family but roommates. I am 1 of 4, all women. I care for dogs & cats that are not mine. I am the only one that will scrub the damn toilet, there's only 1. I empty the dishwasher & reload it. Up until very recently, I take out the garbage, cook & clean up after the meal, I cooked. There's more but I don't want to take up any more room. I have RA, FMS, RLS, a clavicle that is not attached to the sternum, am about to have surgery on 3 vertebras in my neck, & about to see a hematologist/oncologist for profound neuropathy in my feet & lower legs. The roommates sit at the table doing word searches & sudoko puzzles most of the time. Even while I do chores. I have had to pull back & stop some things. They've not even noticed nor do they seem to give a damn. Completely & utterly sad & cruel. The day will come when I am out of here! When that happens maybe they'll understand then? Yea, probably not. And will I even give a damn? Probably not. Honey I am so sorry! No one deserves that! May The Great Spirit be with you.

Hello!! I have a 15 yr old. She is very respectful of my pain. And 12 year old twins and a husband. I work a 45 hr a week job. It is all I have to work with my pain. Then when I get home it is the same for me.

🙏😔😂Girl they know exactly what they are doing, if you weren't there who would do it? So sit down and be disabled just like the rest of them, if you can handle the mess for a while. Let them deal with it. They think you are the live-in maid. I would take out my disability letter and make a copy and put it on the refrigerator so everyone can see it.