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CindyRella

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My anxiety mixed with everything else is so bad I can’t even do my job. I have a huge death phobia so much that it affects my everyday life. I will sit and obsess constantly on scenarios or how much I have to lose (my husband or spouse) I cry all the time. My dr said im not doing enough to help and only relying on medications (which isn’t true) im so exhausted. My fatigue is CONSTANT. I can barely even muster the energy to go to the bathroom. I can’t even make food or anything if my husband didn’t make it and give it to me I wouldn’t eat. No one seems to help, I just want someone to listen and take me seriously

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    • Scarlettrose

      768d

      I agree with Samhain. I switched counselors and am doing much better.

    • NonbinarySlytherin

      768d

      Is there a way to find a therapist outside of his office? I know some doctors prefer this but I don't know if I could trust them. Maybe that's just my terrible past with therapists. Anyway, are there any other places in your area? Universities with students training to become therapists? As weird as it is my first good therapist was a student who was training. They are supervised by professionals so you are getting quality care and helping someone who will one day help many others.

    • SAMHAIN

      768d

      Um... "condolences" doesn't even begin to fill the lexical gap i have for your situation. IMHO: You absolutely need to find a new care provider, these people are clearly obsessed with upholding 1950s status quo, probably for fiscally-political reasons. Therapist that literally blames you for your condition and tells you you're not doing enough of their job should be disbarred, full-stop.

    • Scarlettrose

      768d

      I agree with Samhain. I switched counselors and am doing much better.

    • Kymbunz

      768d

      Have you had a death in the family recently? Death scares me and I just lost my father in law that I cared for for 12 years and lived with us. But I’m taking ashawanga and maca root supplements and none of the meds my doctor gave me worked. I was either allergic or had bad night mares and made things worse!! Give those a try they are all natural. I’m dealing with the same thing with life and pushing myself to work and not have everyone around me irritate me. It’s a working progress.

    • CindyRella

      770d

      It’s more what I will lose or that I won’t see them ever again. But it’s not just me I feel like this about my child and husband too. Always worried about them bc I don’t want to lose them. It’s so irrational

    • VeryBerryBabe

      770d

      Maybe seeing a death doula and getting your will figured out would help?? Because then at least you don't have to worry about the aftereffects, if that makes sense. I have a huge death phobia too and what freaks me out the most is a sudden death that leaves my loved ones scrambling to pick up the pieces when I'm gone. So maybe it'd help give you some ease?

    • CindyRella

      771d

      My primary is who put me on my meds originally but he can’t do adhd meds so he suggested to go to psych so I did and they took over all my RX

    • CindyRella

      771d

      Thank you. I’m upset because this is my 3rd psych dr and he suggested that I may be drug seeking because I’ve “gone through so many psych dr in 3 months” but literally they all were either super outdated, rude, etc. Im reliant on him for my meds I’ve been on them (minus the adhd med) for 14 years. I’ve told all of them that it’s not working anymore. No one will change anything. Which I don’t understand either. He point blank told me that I’m the type of person that will just ask for dose increase over and over and he refuses to go past 15mg for Ritalin. I have severe ptsd among other things. There’s a wait list for a therapist at his office but then he tells me I’m not doing enough to get better. You don’t know how hard I try. Everyday. Im so exhausted.

    • SAMHAIN

      771d

      It sounds like you need a human that better understands or matches you. Just because one has certain letters after their name does not mean they are a good fit for working with *you!* Please always try to remember: medicine is a SERVICE INDUSTRY! You can demand more attentive treatment, you must be your own advocate. I know, as someone with crippling GAD and severe ADHD-ASD, that this can be the scariest concept. But, I feel VERY STRONGLY about the research which has shown that patients who feel a personal connection or affinity with their counselor or lettered psychiatrist of choice have better recovery and adaptation statistics than those who self-report not feeling a connection with their clinician. This data tells us that it literally does not matter what they say as our therapist, as much as that we feel a safe space with them in order to open up our deepest concerns and find what it is we need. It sounds like you may do better with someone who you not only personally connect with, but one that has experience with medical/death OCD. Unfortunately, this affliction of obsessive compulsion seems to still only be treatable by mental reshaping, as we haven't found the neural "off switch" yet. I feel very strongly that the only counselors or psych*ists that should be treating OCD should be extremely familiar with CBT and its derivitaves, as challenging our obsession seems the best way to quell it, thus far. Alllll the best of luck, I know shopping for a therapist is extremely stressful in itself. There are, luckily, many more resources now than even 5-10 years ago, though! You can search online psychiatrist databases as well as sign up for a telehealth service like Ro.Co (for anxiety and mens/womens health) or Cerebral (treats lots of conditions and will run pre-auth if needed for ins coverage) and just start visiting with their clinicians until you find one you like. Since you can set your own appts and it's only a monthly fee, this can speed up the process as well as allow you to search from your own literal comfort zone. 💕

    • CindyRella

      771d

      The dr I have is a psychiatrist :(

    • NonbinarySlytherin

      772d

      Would keeping a frozen dinner be beneficial? Also, I don't usually say this but I would highly recommend seeing a therapist who has appropriate experience to help you and please get a different doctor. Maybe a psychiatrist since they may have more resources.

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