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TaetaeRyn

547d

Does anyone have any dating advice for a trans man? I want to get more out there but I hate using dating apps and I have no idea how to talk to people irl. Especially since I’m a trans guy, idek who I’m allowed to flirt with and even if I did my anxiety makes me revert to cutesy girl if I try to. And the same thing happens if a guy flirts with me which means he’ll always see me as a girl (which he probably already did if he was flirting). I want to talk to people but I don’t even know where to start so please help… And again I hate hate dating apps and refuse to use them again so no LGBT apps or anything like that.

    • sleepyk12

      518d

      I'm transmasc nonbinary, but I'm in a similar situation. I'd like to get back out there, but not entirely sure how to approach dating now that I've come out as trans and started T. I'm also living in a red state, which makes me scared for my safety, even within LGBTQIA+ spaces... most of them are just lesbian/gay/bi and not trans

      • TaetaeRyn

        518d

        @sleepyk12 I’m also in a red state and that definitely contributes to how hard it is to meet people—both because actual safe places to meet people are few and far between, and because it causes anxiety about whether or not I’m talking to someone who is offended by my very existence every time I talk to anyone new… it’s also a big reason I still don’t tend to correct people’s pronoun usage, even though they always get it wrong *sigh*

        • sleepyk12

          517d

          @TaetaeRyn yeah, it's rough out here for trans folks rn. Since I've started T, I've been gendered correctly by strangers most of the time, which is nice, but I also still feel like I can't open up about my true self until I know I can trust them

    • Mrmrs

      541d

      Hi, I think the best way is to just jump in and try. I don't think there are neat rules of what is allowed and not allowed, you have to try and learn as you go. If you feel like flirting with someone, just do it, in the worst case you will get rejected and then move to the next in line. That way, in the end, you'll find your one, and along the way, you'll gain experience, which is also important. Whether going to just be nice and talk to people in LGBT pubs or even just on the street. Surprises can come from any direction. I'm also a trans man and I met my partner at a bus stop on the way to work, so you really can't tell where it comes from.

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