Struggling with Body Image After Mastectomy

Awwww so sorry about your story. Loosing a part of you can really bring you down and affect your self esteem as a person, and I totally understand how that feels like .. coupled with the fact that your swimsuit you were excited about ordering couldn’t fit as you wanted it to be. So sorry! You also mentioned feeling insecure about your legs all these emotions can be abit troubling for your soul. I would say, it’s just okay to sit back count all the things you’re grateful for especially your wonderful grandkids…Embrace yourself, love yourself know that everyone is not perfect in their own sense… for some the imperfection might be a breast they lost or Lipedema of the legs , a job they lost , a loved one who just died, growing up in a broken home etc… you must understand that no one has it all together but it is the strive to continue in the midst of imperfections that matters the most. Your seem to be someone who looks out for people and it is about time you look out for yourself most this time!

Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear about everything you're going through.It sounds like you have been really hit by a wave of shock and anxiety.My heart goes out to you . I kow this can be a challenging time for you and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when things like ordering swim gear don't work out as you want it . I totally understand how you feel, loosing a part of yourself as intricate as a breast. This is not merely losing ""a lump of fat and skin” This is more of a feeling of loosing a piece of your identity, your confidence, and a sense of self worth. It's okay, let those feelings run; grieve,loss, sadness, anger ,frustration….. Let it run and let it go! Your emotions are real, and they deserve to be acknowledged and respected, not brushed aside by others who may not fully understand what you're going through. As for the swimwear situation, I can only imagine how disappointing and disheartening it must have been to have waiting for your order only to find that it doesn't fit the way you hoped.It’s like that feeling of having to look forward to a delicious meal, only to find out it's gone cold and tasteless. Feeling embarrassed about your legs on top of everything is another heavy load on your self-consciousness and insecurity. But please know that you are not defined by your physical appearance or any of these challenges you're facing. You are a strong, resilient individual who's been through so much, and you deserve to be treated with kindness, compassion, and understanding. Going to the public pool with your grandsons might feel daunting right now, but please try not to let your feelings of defeat hold you back. You are still the amazing person your grandsons love and count on, whether you have one breast or two, whether your legs are affected by lymphedema or not. Your love, your presence, and your spirit are what truly matter, and I'm sure your grandsons cherish every moment they spend with you, regardless of where you go or what you look like. You are stronger than you realize, and you don't have to face any of this alone. Reach out to those who care about you, whether it's your family, friends…..remember, it's okay to ask for help, to lean on others when you need to, and to take things one step at a time. You've got this.

I would talk with your dr and see about maybe reconstruction? Or getting the other one off too? That’s what I did I just couldn’t live with only one breast. So I made my dr take the other one off! Now I can at least just wear a T-shirt and shorts when I swim now. Hopefully you will get the right opinion that is best for you. I’ll be praying for you.

Don't give up. Now that you know what does not work, keep looking for something that will. Don't forget to call about making those returns. God bless you.