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Livingasazebra

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I need some answers here. So I’m questioning my sexuality I thought I was straight but even as a child I didn’t quite feel right and felt connected to lgbtq. I defo like boys but maybe girls as well. Regardless the point of this post is that I have told my mum, best friend and my cousin who’s also part of lgbtq. She was very accepting and helped me as was very nice but my auntie was horrible to her when she came out and she took it out on me last night. Kinda complicated but basically I asked her in a half sarcastic but also wondering way whether I came across straight or not. She then had a go at me telling me this was “nothing to joke about” etc etc for an entire essay. She told me her coming out was hell and etc. so she took out her terrible time and the fact that I can joke about it with ppl that know and with myself bc nobody’s abusing me or not accepting. I know she wants the best for me but her inner trauma of it all really came out quite aggressively on me last night and idk how to reply. I’ve seen millions of gay ppl joke about their sexuality so I know I haven’t done anything wrong I just have very supportive ppl and it’s more chill for me aside from the inner confusion and stress. Anyone got any opinions on this? I feel angry at her for having a go at me like that and trying to tell me what I can and can’t do but I also understand that’s coming from her inner trauma as I’ve seen how my auntie treats her and has always treated her. (My auntie doesn’t know about me)

    • ZakkityZak

      412d

      It sounds like you've got a pretty good grasp of the situation, so if you feel up to it I would just tell her that what she said made you upset, you understand why she said it, but the world is a different place now and there isn't any need to get angry about it. I don't know your relationship of course so this may not help, but I would hope there would be some way you can communicate to her that that isn't an unusual thing. Me and my other lgbtq+ friends are continually taking the piss out of one another in a way that would probably have had us arrested on the streets not that long ago, so I see where she's coming from, it just sounds like she needs to be, and I hate to use the word, re-educated about modern lgbtq+ culture.

      • Livingasazebra

        412d

        @ZakkityZak yeah my auntie is a very Catholic person and battered her for not being straight so I think it’s the trauma but in no way shape or form was it ok to not step back and reply later but reply in the moment when she was triggered. Bc I didn’t answer her straight away and I still haven’t bc I’m peed off

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One response to this situation is to focus on your own journey and experiences, while being understanding of your cousin's past trauma. It's important to remember that everyone's experience with coming out and their sexuality is different, and what may be a joke for some could be painful for others. Try to communicate openly with your cousin and acknowledge her feelings, while also expressing your own perspective and emotions.

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