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Partner trying to take away my coping mechanism

crimsonwolf

715d

does anyone elses partner try to force you to get rid of something that helps? my husband has been trying to force me to get rid of my phone to make him happy. i use my phone to keep my ptsd and anxiety calm only thing that helps til i get new meds next month

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    • TTLOTA

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      Have you tried tried chill terepene? It has helped me with my anxiety. It keeps me cool and calm. Hope you can have peace with your hubby… it’s never easy

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    • TTLOTA

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      Have you tried tried chill terepene? It has helped me with my anxiety. It keeps me cool and calm. Hope you can have peace with your hubby… it’s never easy

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    • Heaven197987

      714d

      That's controlling behavior unless there's a valid reason such as cheating he shouldn't force you to give up your phone there's more reasons to have a phone then to be without one. Don't let him make you unhappy just to make him happy

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      • crimsonwolf

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        @Heaven197987 thing is i dont cheat, im loyal. he always assumes i am cheating and never believes me.

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        • Heaven197987

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          @crimsonwolf don't allow him to control you if he sees he can control one part of your life by cutting you of from others he'll start trying to control more.

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    • kepler

      714d

      Yeah no all of these comments about radiation are irrelevant. That is extremely toxic behavior

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    • Spoonie_In_Seattle

      715d

      I recommend you scroll around on this site a bit. It has helped me out a lot. The pattern he is exhibiting is a form of emotional abuse - control. It can be hard to recognize and easy to dismiss. The fact however is that over 60% of people with disabilities and slightly less with chronic illness experience domestic abuse of some kind. Those are the facts. Here is a a place for hope and help. Information is power: https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/

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      • crimsonwolf

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        @Spoonie_In_Seattle im very aware that he is abusive, been in emotional abusive relationships before. but i can escape this time cuz im poor and cant pay for divorce

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        • Spoonie_In_Seattle

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          @crimsonwolf As others have said, do not worry about a divorce right now. Just start making mini steps to making urself safe: -Make a list of everything u would put in a “go bag,” if u had to run out the door (like change of clothes, list of meds. -Make a list of all copied of papers you need to have - marriage certificate, all bank accounts, savings accounts, retirement funds, house deed, etc. -You are entitled to a certain amount of it depending how long you are married and what state you live in. -If you are in the disabled or chronic illness community many attorneys will work for free. Go to whichever firms list themselves with your illness’s organization. For example the MS Society can advice a person with MS attorneys in Seattle that do probono work. Good luck to you!!

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        • Soskae

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          @crimsonwolf don’t worry a out paying for the divorce right now just do your best to create a safe space for yourself. If you can do that while living with him great by standing up for yourself etc. but if you can I’d get physical space from him. You can take time to find a way to pay for a divorce but once you realize it’s abusive I don’t think you have any time to stick around it. I’ve also never been in an abusive romantic relationship so my advice is only from the outside looking in. I hope this helps.

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        • Charis

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          @crimsonwolf Stand strong and don't give him power. Any form of abuse has something to do surrounding the abuser maintaining control. Do not give him further satisfaction.

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        • Charis

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          @crimsonwolf Depending on where you are at, there may be agencies willing to help you file a PFA and help get you out. Don't be afraid to document everything. Every word, every perception, everything said. Keep it in a safe place with any important documents. When the time is right, don't be afraid to leave.

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        • Belugabear

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          @crimsonwolf I know it seems silly to use a wikihow page but maybe it will help! It’s up to you if you want to look at it but I thought I’d present the option! Best of luck with whatever you decide to do! https://www.wikihow.com/Leave-an-Abusive-Relationship-with-No-Money?amp=1

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      • Spoonie_In_Seattle

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        @Spoonie_In_Seattle https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/

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    • huh

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      That sounds like an avid attempt to isolate you and that's not safe.

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    • Belugabear

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      Yeah I’m going to NOPE that. That’s an easy way to make you cut off connections with others. Does he have any reasoning? I can’t think of any problem other than it harming your mental health (and you said it helps) that would warrant this. As a choice for yourself sure, but not being forced by someone else. I hope you figure things out and are able to stand up for what you want! I know how hard that is. Sending love!

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    • Roseflower

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      I trying to find a gadget to put on my cell that might remove some of the radiation or reduce it as much as possible and limit the time and distance from my body. The cell phone companies do some warnings ⚠️ that we really need to look into for our own safety

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    • Roseflower

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      Well maybe it's 🤔 because the cells📱 aren't healthy with all the side effects that could make health worst health, like radiation.

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      • Soskae

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        @Roseflower personally I’d rather die of radios poising then have constant anxiety and panic attacks because I can’t hold my phone in my hand.

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    • gracie__

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      i’m sorry but that is toxic behavior on their behalf. i’m sorry you have to go through that and just know what you can do whatever YOU want in life. don’t ever let anyone stop you from saying or doing what you want because you have to live the rest of your life with yourself and no one else

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      • crimsonwolf

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        @gracie__ thank you

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