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is high school the best years of your life?

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    • ina

      583d

      thanks everyone <3<3 ppl at my school have so many friends, go to parties, and have relationships. whereas all 4 years i've barely talked and stayed at home. i thought ruined the best thing i had been given but i'm glad to know that's not true

    • Cece7

      582d

      Definitely not for me! Think that saying is overrated. The majority of your life comes after high school. Plenty of time for good memories šŸ’•

    • DariaFae

      583d

      Not many even remembers high school or keps the same friends. I šŸ’Æ encourage early graduation (GED after 8th) and getting to college. I wasted 6years in HS couldn't pass for the lack of friends/assistance finally got my GED and once I completed my associates 4.0 ā˜ŗļø I really do enjoy school and learning HS isn't for everyone. It's for gossip and BS talkers and bullies.

    • Cowboy_frog

      583d

      No!!!!

    • ina

      583d

      thanks everyone <3<3 ppl at my school have so many friends, go to parties, and have relationships. whereas all 4 years i've barely talked and stayed at home. i thought ruined the best thing i had been given but i'm glad to know that's not true

      • EatenByWormy

        583d

        @ina Someone told me that friendships are easier to maintain when you see people five days a week and I thought about that a lot. It absolutely became true post-graduation for me and a lot of friends Iā€™ve kept. My partner as well. It sounds like that kind of socializing is not for you, and thatā€™s okay! As an adult I have lots of friends and thereā€™s an understanding that weā€™re all doing our best. We chat when we can. Pre-COVID Iā€™d see a lot of them at anime conventions :ā€™) It takes time, but as you get to know yourself better, itā€™s easier to attract the right friends for you.

    • PinkFairy

      583d

      No but once I switched to public school, after what felt like ten million private ones and 2yrs of homeschooling due to how bad bullying would get, it felt amazing for my last 3yrs! It made me wish I had gone to public school the whole time due to how different everyone is, there being a group for practically everyone, etc. I could go there and be gay and no one cared! No one made fun of my interests, grades, etc. But Iā€™m going to be 25 soon and college has been a ton of fun although there have been major bumps itā€™s easier to recover from them since I have friends now! That and college is completely different since Iā€™m learning shit thatā€™ll actually benefit my career and life šŸ˜… I have no doubt that my 30s will be even better! I might get a gf and then married, Iā€™ll be doing what I love, hopefully still have my squad, and maybe a few new friends!

    • CaitiBee

      584d

      Most people would agree that they are not. I had a fantastic high school experience, but also recognize that I look back on it with rose colored glasses. Iā€™ve also struggled with anxiety and depression most as a young adult. I think I miss high school more than most people.

    • JingleP

      584d

      Itā€™s definitely different for each person. Often times people find life long friends in high school. Personally I did but my academic life and mental health were way too stressful for me. The weight was taken off in the first year of college. Even if high school was the best time, it doesnā€™t necessarily mean you would want to continue living in that time. Iā€™m admittedly still young but believe that thereā€™s joys in every section of life. It may be different but your life stage does not dictate happiness by any means.

    • CaptainHolmes

      584d

      No, I have grown so much since high school. I have way more confidence, take better care of my mental health, set boundaries, and have healthier relationships. I hope my anxiety will continue to improve as I get older.

    • mtngoat

      584d

      Absolutely not! Hoping my 30s will be

    • 4byfour

      585d

      Life got SO MUCH BETTER after highschool. Iā€™m realizing all the people who told me it gets harder were all just divorcees who got married early in life.

    • Donut

      585d

      As someone who absolutely loved high school, I promise you they are not the only good years of your life! And, despite what everyone likes to say, neither is college. I firmly believe the best years of your life do not happen consecutively. I think itā€™s realistic to say that SOME of your best years have happened in high school, but other best years are yet to come in your 20ā€™s, 30ā€™s, 40ā€™s and so on. I know plenty of people who absolutely loved their 50ā€™s, for example, and talk about that time of their life more favorably than any moment of their youth. My advice is to not let yourself be bogged down by the expectations you (and society) set for yourself. You donā€™t need a house, marriage, or children to be happy at 30. You also donā€™t need to force yourself to feel old!! If you still feel 18 for the rest of your life, then let that part of you thrive. Anyone who tries to bring you down is just upset that they let themselves become jaded. šŸ’• It was also mentioned above, but one of the reasons why people call high school and college the best years of their life is because of the forced social environment. Making new friends is a lot harder once youā€™re out of a space that requires you to make connections, which often results in people feeling sad and nostalgic for their school days. If you think you may fall into this category, then developing strong friendships and learning how to make (and keep) friends out of the classroom will be a really amazing skill for you to focus on long term.

    • a.f

      585d

      Absolutely not. Graduation was so freeing for me. My life is so much better now.

    • EatenByWormy

      585d

      Absolutely not. Most people live decades past their teens- how miserable weā€™d all be if that was the best time of our lives! All you can do at any point is make the best out of what you have, and thatā€™s easier when you donā€™t need someone to legally sign off on things for you.

      • EatenByWormy

        585d

        @EatenByWormy Iā€™m turning 30 next month and my baby sister just turned 20 this week. She was lamenting not being a teenager anymore šŸ¤­ The way it worked out for me is that I assumed each milestone age I would have a specific life situation (thanks autism and my parents being awful at parenting), and with each I felt a lot of pressure to have achieved whatever I felt was appropriate. At 16, I would have a license. At 18, I would be in my first year of college. At 21, I would be graduating with my bachelorā€™s degree. By 26, I would be married. By 30, I would have kids. I didnā€™t get my license til I was 18, didnā€™t graduate from college until I was 26 because I was kicked out of school, and Iā€™m 29 and unmarried w/ no kids. But Iā€™m also comfortable in my own body and I live with my partner of 10 years and our cats. I come home to a place where Iā€™m so wanted and loved that I have to ask for some personal space sometimes šŸ¤£ This is so much better than I had imagined, and that was able to happen because I let go of my expectations. Your life happens on its own timeline and no one elseā€™s. ā¤ļø

    • squibibi

      585d

      I mean, i had to drop out bc it was either that or some good ol fun in the tub with the toaster, so no I really dont think they were good years for me

    • jam064

      585d

      No. I had a close group of friends, so I'm lucky enough to say that high school was a good time in my life, but it still wasn't the best. I've been drifting for the last ten years, but at almost 29, I've finally figured out what I want to do with my life. I have a house and a wonderful family of furbabies. I figured out who I am as a person and what I want out of my life. I have a plan to achieve it. I'm happy in a way I've never been before. High school can be good, but it is far from being the best. ā¤ļø

    • krush

      585d

      such a myth honestlyā€¦just try and find good friends and live in the moment. donā€™t think about what others think and pursue what you want!! you got this :))

    • Keisha

      585d

      i donā€™t think so. i miss high school, but i think i miss strict routine and spending all day with friends more than anything. iā€™m so much more confident and comfortable with myself

      • Keisha

        585d

        @Keisha iā€™m also not scared to stand up for myself now, and know i shouldā€™ve worked harder. if i could redo high school, i would 100%

    • Laurel.Rose

      585d

      oh not by a LONG shot- so far hs and middle school have been the actual worst years. You feel better once youā€™re out & in college/working/ect

    • BevBug

      585d

      I mean, it was definitely better than middle school. But, generally, no, high school is not the best years of your life for most people. The people who do have that experience typically don't go on to have worthwhile adulthoods. Or they died at some point during or immediately after high school. Can high school be a good time in your life? Definitely. But if it wasn't the most amazing experience, that's not only normal but kind of expected. TV lied to us all.

    • xoxogossipgirl

      585d

      also i find during the summer in high school i would become a lot more happy and confident then when school would start that would all die

    • Tastycupcakes

      585d

      High school is peak depression years, everybody's brains are still developing and stuff. You'll be happier when everything's clicked into place.

    • AndSheWas

      585d

      Absolutely not. There are certain challenges you face after you graduate, but they are so outweighed by the connections and confidence you get post high school

    • Cas_499

      585d

      Not for me, I grew so much after high school, I wasn't even remotely the person I am today (I'm 25).

    • xoxogossipgirl

      585d

      if u have good friends then it can be but itā€™s not that great in my opinion

    • SundaySmall

      585d

      Confidently, not for me. Iā€™m 25 and much happier than high school, plus optimistic that my 30s will be even better.

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