Tata01

243d

I joined this app because I found it interesting that a group of people similar but unknown to each other could share each other's thoughts. I've never had a group of people who could unsterstand or care for how I felt about anything. Not even my own family, especially my parents. Lately, my PTSD has been getting in the way of doing anything. I keep having strong emotions to memories that play like videos in my head, as if they happened just yesterday. Things from several time periods at once that I just don't want to think about. I'm seeing a doctor tomorrow as my mom wants me to go and I agree but it's so stressful to have to see so many constantly. I guess my question really is, for those who have been dealing with C-PTSD/PTSD for a while, how do you manage your everyday life? How do you get over feeling helpless and empty and sad everyday? What tips can anyone give for these feelings?

Complex post traumatic stress disorder

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • lai

    242d

    i think for me, i cannot recommend enough finding the right therapist and possibly medication that works for you! also be patient with yourself- for me, it took almost a decade to even be able to access the memories that i needed to work through in therapy, but i still found help in treating the symptoms through cbt and dbt! don’t be afraid to switch therapists until you find someone you’re very comfortable with, and remember that it’s ok to take it slow!!! a lot of the symptoms, like anxiety and depression, can be alleviated similar to those disorders on their own, so i really do recommend trying a combo of therapy and medications if you can afford it!

    • lai

      242d

      the kind of sucky follow up is that it’s gonna take a lot of time and hard work, but it will be so worth it, because you are worth it!!! im wishing you strength, it takes a lot of courage to seek help and im proud of you

      • Tata01

        242d

        thanks for your reply! Honestly, I know all that. I read it a lot in articles but it's different when it's an actual person saying it. Switching therapists is one of the biggest issues cause I'm always moving around. And accepting help in general is as well but sometimes I can ask others. Either way, I hope I find a good therapist that can help me in the ways you described!

  • Derrick707

    242d

    I battle cptsd as well. I wouldn't say I ever get over the thoughts. Ideally, I acknowledge the thoughts, urges, flashbacks..., accept them, and remind myself that I am not defined by them. In a bit they go away. I don't always do that though. Sometimes I fixate on them and obsess over them, wonder if they are who I am or if I'm going to act on them. It's important to have tangible hope in your life, whether it's a relationship, medication, therapy, etc.., something that makes you believe you are healing and you're on the right path. Hope this helps :)

    • Tata01

      242d

      hey Derrick, thanks for your advice. I feel similar to what you said, but I know it's all in the past and can't change. It's just hard carrying the past with me while everyone else has forgotten you know? And remembering that those things don't have to happen again and might not. But I'm getting the referrals I need soon to get back to therapy asap. Hopefully things go different this time. Thanks again for the reply.

      • Derrick707

        242d

        you're welcome. It is so hard. We are in this together :)

  • cadydid

    241d

    I was only diagnosed a year ago with c-ptsd due to many traumas in a row. I sought help right away never thinking I would be in a place I couldn't help myself. I've learned that it helps to just take it one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time. Reflect on the good things that you've experienced and don't always try to find the positive. I struggle with always finding a good thing about bad things and my therapist is good enough to call me on it. Sometimes you just have to say, yes this sucks and it really hurts and let yourself be honest with yourself and be okay with being unokay even if it's just for a moment.

    • Tata01

      236d

      "finding a good thing about bad things" wow. I don't think I've ever even given this a thought honestly. I never find anything good in my past memories but it's something to consider. I try to admit I'm not doing well now but it's still hard. Thanks for your comment. It's a little harder for me to accept things are the way they are and can the changed, as well as admit I have c-ptsd sometimes. But your words are encouraging and I really appreciate them.

      • cadydid

        236d

        sometimes for me it's easier to focus on good things. When I was a kid I wasn't allowed to show any negative emotion without a beating. So for instance it was yeah I just got the crap kicked out of me but there are no visible marks I have to explain away. Or yes I was stabbed but I'm alive and I'll heal. It can be a good thing but as my counselor is working with me on there doesn't always have to be a bright spot to trauma. It's okay to admit that bad things happen and saying this really sucks, then after processing the bad, find the good. I hope that helps explain better. It took me a long time to admit to my c-ptsd too because my whole life I've always had people telling me how strong I am so I felt like when I had a bad day I was letting everyone down. It's taken 2 years of therapy for me to realize that I can be strong and still be vulnerable. It takes a lot more strength to show emotion than it does to push it all down I am finding.

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