haylo

94d

I can't do this today.
I didn't really know where else to say this but I just don't feel like dealing with this. home has been a living hell recently (presumably* due to various ADHD symptoms increasing in intensity)
my mom has been cracking down on waking up on time, sleeping on time, etc. and especially homework (I'm still in school tbh) and I don't know how else to say that I PHYSICALLY somehow just cant seem too. the amount of times I seem to say "I don't mean not too." because I don't. I want to clean my room, and shower, wake up and be on time. get to sleep, feel rested. I want to get homework done but I just cant seem too. and it's been really hard lately and I feel like I cant seem to take this anymore but everyone has there own problems going on and I don't wanna bug them either. while I show lots of symptoms I haven't finished the ADHD screening and am not diagnosed, so I truly don't know how to explain anymore. apologies for the rant, but any advice? I just can't so these things all the time and my parents responses are only making it more difficult..

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  • aldrwytch

    94d

    Idk your age/gender but I’m a 27yr old woman, diagnosed with ADHD only 2 years ago, and this sounds painfully like what I was dealing with 5+ years ago, both with symptoms and my family. I had no idea these things could be ADHD symptoms, so I just thought I was a messy, procrastinating failure when things like this came up, even though I knew how much I wanted to do the things my parents thought I was blowing off. I’m still recovering from and unpacking the toxic ableism, but I just want you to know you’re not alone. Whether or not ADHD is the answer for you, you’re not a failure. You’re doing your very best, in a world that just isn’t built for people like us. Do what you can to just make it through one day at a time. Hopefully a diagnosis will come soon that will validate your struggles and get you some support but in the meantime, know that you’re doing enough, just making it day to day. Many people won’t understand how hard this is, but that’s not your fault. Sending kind thoughts, stranger-friend 💗

    • haylo

      94d

      (I don't usually share my age online but im also technically to young to be on here 😅) but I am afab) but thank you so much. I really do struggle a lot with validation for myself and I so deeply appreciate when people take a moment to relate and make that seen. it still gets really tough sometimes and I thank you for your support :)

      • aldrwytch

        93d

        I didn’t mean to suggest you needed to, sorry! Very smart to not share, to stay safe. I just know that when I was younger I really wish I’d literally ever met or heard from or about anyone who was literally even the tiniest bit like me. The validation piece is so so hard, especially in school, where its so easy to start comparing to everyone around you. Just try to be kind to yourself however you can.

  • FlyingLizards

    94d

    I've been diagnosed and struggling with adhd since at least 2005 (the earliest I remember taking meds) and I would say that's a very common symptom and you very likely do have adhd (still get diagnosed though to prove to people like your school that you need assistance). Drugs definitely do help and they're nothing to be afraid of because they are closely monitored and controlled by very smart people who know every aspect of whatever plant or something they make them from, but they're not and end all do all. Therapy helps, as does a social support system, mental health advocacy, family (it's hard for anyone to understand when they don't actually have it but they do care and try to help the way they know how) and friends. This app is also great for resources so feel free to post any questions about it here and people will reply with what helps them. Just know that people do care, they just can't possibly understand it on the same level. It would probably be like trying to explain how a blind person gets around to someone who can see. It's not echolocation but it's the closest thing we can understand. Vice versa with trying to explain color to a blind person. Find people who have it or have studied it to get answers that actually help you with a problem and pass that along to the people available to help you, like your parents, and explain when they don't understand and you feel misunderstood and guide them how best to guide you. I'm 28 and I struggle with the same thing getting my parents to help me remember things. My dad gets it but in a different way but my mom, even though she's super willing, just doesn't completely understand. And that's ok. It's hard for ND people like us to understand them either lol

    • haylo

      94d

      Thank you. I am hoping to try and explain better, but it is difficult to understand on both ends lol. Thank you though, I'm definitely going to try and find other ways to work with these things. (And continue to talk about ADHD with my therapist/finish the screening to possibly get a full diagnosis)

      • aldrwytch

        93d

        I’ve found the comics by artist ADHD Alien to be really helpful in explaining my experiences to my family, and there’s some great content available on instagram and Twitter too.

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