I am a person who has a preferred name and not a lot of people use it. I am still in school and I haven't told the teachers about my preferred name so I still have to use it when I write my name on papers or if I see it online. I want to cry when I see my name, eventhough I've had it for so long. I don't know how to cope with it
Chronic Generalized pain
im sorry you feel this way. i feel like this too. i hate when people refer to me as a she and i hate when people call me by my “real” name it makes me so sad and uncomfortable
This sounds really hard. Something I started with was making a bearable “nickname” that used part of my birth name. This really helped the transition for me because cis people tend to Get nicknames more. I also used to go by just my last name & have had friends who would sign things with their initial & then last name.
It sounds like it is time for some change. You shouldn’t have to deal with that pain so frequently.
Fwiw I used the nickname until I found my new name & then I started a trend among friends of writing “nickname”/“new name” as my name (for example ash/milo, pronounced Ash or Milo). This helped my friends shift more gradually And gave me as much time as I wanted to decide if I wanted to keep using my nickname
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