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Brian513

557d

this week is going to be rough for me. my wedding was suppose to be next Sunday. I don't know how I'm going to make it through

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    • Halestorm719

      556d

      Who is she going to want to smash more with?? A Lion who provides a safe world for her to let her hair down in? Or a malnourished male coyote who is just trying to survive? You don’t need to be ripped dude. Women can sense your tension and stress. Being a lion doesn’t mean you need to be physically built. It means that your someone she knows she can go the distance with and be safe with. The one who will protect her to the death, and absolutely drive her insane in bed. That’s what lions do. 🦁

    • Halestorm719

      556d

      Who is she going to want to smash more with?? A Lion who provides a safe world for her to let her hair down in? Or a malnourished male coyote who is just trying to survive? You don’t need to be ripped dude. Women can sense your tension and stress. Being a lion doesn’t mean you need to be physically built. It means that your someone she knows she can go the distance with and be safe with. The one who will protect her to the death, and absolutely drive her insane in bed. That’s what lions do. 🦁

    • Halestorm719

      557d

      I am sorry to hear man. It seems like everyone is dealing with shit these days. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Keep telling yourself in your heart “this to shall pass” and it will. I know nothing can change how your feeling right now. When your rock bottom the only way to go is up right. And who knows maybe this is saving you a ton of heartache and problems later. Trust a dude who has been divorced twice. But I understand man. Love is love. And you want it to work out. We are here for you bro

      • Brian513

        557d

        @Halestorm719 thank you

        • Halestorm719

          556d

          @Brian513 it is extremely sexy to a woman when a man can lay it down and say “this is what I want and this is what I deserve” a woman who gets mad at you for that isn’t worth it. There is an ocean of females out there dude. Finding your fish in a big ocean is hard. Sometimes it’s all about timing. Get your head right. When she comes to you she will be so crazy about you dude. But she will very quickly be assessing how safe it is for her to crash into you. Your job right now is to prepare your mind. Be the lion you are. Develop meditation skills that can carry you through the hard shit. Stay confident in what you deserve. Initially for awhile it will be a very lonely place. When you cut out the crap, the mediocre and the noise. That stuff is easy to find. What you need is what you will only find when you are in tune with who you are. When you do that she will show up. Someday. And not only will she be attracted to you but she will more easily dig you and fall like crazy for you because you have prepared that safe space in your mind for her to land in. Be the Lion. She wants a lion. Lions don’t chase dead meat .. feel what you must. Grieve what you must. Listen to that side of you. Then realize that the one meant for you exists and it’s time to make your life a place she can thrive in. The bedroom, everything will be a lot more fun if she can feel safe in your world dude. ❤️ you got this

        • Halestorm719

          556d

          @Brian513 you build a life with the wrong person and the results can be a lifetime of Hell dude. Any love interest is risk. But when it’s real dude date her for awhile a long while. If your crazy about each other awesome. It doesn’t mean you gotta put a ring on it right away. If she is still around after 3 years together and your rockin just as hard then you know it’s real. Don’t let anyone rush you. The right woman won’t want you to rush. She will just want to be with you. And love you. As you are! In that moment. If you build a fortress to protect your life and what you love your not going to pick a construction person who you meet and learn about for 5 minutes. No. Your going to shop around. Look at the blueprints they offer. Take your time. No woman will ever be perfect but you will soon learn if you date someone long enough if you can handle the bad stuff they do. We all have bad stuff. The key is finding that person who you both can handle each other’s bad stuff but yet work on things in a way that the love you have never dies. Therefore be relentless in dating. What I mean is don’t settle. It is absolutely about you! Yes you need to be there for a partner but finding what makes you happy in a long term situation can only happen if who you bring into your life also can fulfill those needs. If she is high maintenance and your a blue jeans and rock T shirt comic con kind of guy chances are you guys would be miserable together. Bam. You just weeded out one and saved yourself trouble. Don’t look at rejection or failure with women as bad. Look at it like that person just isn’t the one. And remember the harder you focus on you and improve you you will feel better. The problem is that as you do so meeting a woman who can be what you need becomes harder. There are a lot of mediocre dates out there. Will that average situation bring you lasting happiness? Ya she may feel good in the moment and the sex may be good and all but long term. You gotta think long term for that happiness. Build with a female construction contractor who offers you blue prints that focus on your heart. Your mind. Your happiness. The one who loves to come to your construction site everyday and she wants to be sure every nail and wood laid down is exactly where it needs to be. That woman won’t be perfect. She will make mistakes but watch her attention to you. Is she wanting to just slap a situation together or is she one who genuinely wants to grow and be your friend and learn by your side. That is what you keep and never let go of. Fuck the rest

        • Halestorm719

          556d

          @Brian513 ya man of course. Here’s the deal. Think about it logically. There are a ton of fish in the sea. It may seem like doomsday now but at the end of the day this chick saved you a lot of grief down the road. I have been married and divorced twice and let me tell you from experience picking the wrong person can truly make your future a living nightmare. Broken home situations, ex’s who want endless money from you. It can just be really hard dude. So focus on you. Do some meditation. Check out a lady by the name of Teal Swan online and a Buddhist monk named Tich Knat Hahn. Healing takes time. I’m sure you really likes this girl. The truth is that the right woman will be so crazy about you that the idea of running or ending something amazing will be absolutely unheard of. Finding such love is really hard. But it is real and it exists. You will know if and when it happens. There is an emptiness you feel. I understand. Take this time to heal. Understand that in every bad situation a good thing can come out of it. Imagine being with this chick for 10 years only to find out that maybe 5 of them she was cheating? And that maybe she was never invested as deep as you were. Now you have a house together and maybe a kid or two. You built a life with someone who truly wasn’t invested in you that hard in the first place. Marriages like this happen all the time. Imagine then the hell of trying to fairly handle a situation of splitting that up fairly so you can move on with your life. Someday when the right person comes along you will be super happy you didn’t let yourself go into a situation because maybe it sort of felt good in the moment. Why promise forever to someone who can’t promise you the most important day of your life? Your wedding day. When you step back and think about it that way you realize the freedom you have now. To make infinite choices for you and your life and future. It takes time to reach that enlightened state but it will come. One day at a time.

    • Ed80

      557d

      I’m sorry to hear that. Keep your head up. Vent to someone if you can

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