Elektra

46d

I wish someone lived in my area I could trust and make friends with. I'm 33 and a pansexual poly genderfluid individual who just wants friends. I have DID and my partner alter with our, "family" has been missing my late husband too. I feel so alone in RL right now...

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • sabbymer

    46d

    I'm so sorry you're going through that. I'm actually pansexual poly nonbinary and 33! sending good vibes

  • xPORFIRIOx

    46d

    I don't want to be offensive and really want to help...But to the average everyday person, if you're giving them all these labels, it's going to freak a lot of people out. If my comment is angering you, I'm sorry I am just being very honest. Perhaps drop the labels until after you get to know someone. I'm not saying "hide who you are" but 99% of folks will accept gay, trans, and bi with no issue...But throwing out labels where most don't even know the meaning to is just going to cause grief. All my opinion.

    • ChubbyMango

      46d

      That's why you ask instead of remaining ignorant. Conversation is a 2 way street and there has to be sharing of information. I see them all as ice breakers. If you don't like that than you are either not interested on the person/Conversation, in which case, state so civilly and remove yourself. It's easier to get along with other humans, more than people make it.

      • xPORFIRIOx

        46d

        Gonna be a lot of uninterested people then. I was just trying to help .

    • Elektra

      45d

      -_- If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. -Thumper

      • Tess123

        44d

        I’ll say as a person who doesn’t have any labels but just loves people in all their differences. Their are people out their like myself who have friends from all kinds of backgrounds. But if you look for people who are only exactly like you, you might miss out on some meaningful connections.

  • Akujenias

    46d

    😥 I hope the best for you. You are not alone and if it is friendship you seek, feel free to message me, or really whomever you want to. The worst case you find out they aren't as open to talking about the same things and you find someone else to conversate with. Just the act of getting to know sometimes history and idiosyncracies is a beautiful enough process that just being truly present and curious becomes an adventure worth exploring.

  • dysturbation

    45d

    S c r e w what that other person said. You shouldn't have to hide in a closet to make friends. Try wearing things that signal your labels to other LGBTQ+ people and hopefully you'll make some friends that way.

    • Henrietta.Orange

      45d

      xPORFIRIOx was not implying anyone hide in a closet. I completely understand what they are saying. Why can't we all just say Hi and talk with other human beings without being labeled?

      • Elektra

        44d

        If you don't like labels then why are you posting on my issue?

      • dysturbation

        44d

        Labels are to humans as boxes are to cats. It's one thing to get in the box yourself, it's another to be forced into it. Labels help marginalized groups find each other. This entire site runs on that concept.

  • brendaboppers

    45d

    38, pan, poly.... we're out there!

  • sabbymer

    45d

    Labels are important to an extent like if you're polyamorous you want to look for other polyamorous people only. They state your preferences which is valid but also not trying to ignore others...

  • WakeUpLittleSuzy

    44d

    Hey, let's all focus on what's important, which is someone feeling lonely and needing friendly voices around them. Which I totally relate to. I feel so alone IRL too, and it sucks. I want a best friend more than anything. When you hit the time in life when all your friends get married and have kids it's hard to keep seeing people, let alone when you're depressed and anxious and you want to see people but at the same time you want to just curl up in bed... I hear you. And I'm a bicurious 44-year-old recently-divorced single parent. If you live in Massachusetts, message me and we'll have coffee. 😁

  • StressedMess

    44d

    Hey I'm 29 live in the conservative state of Oklahoma and I am Bisexual. There are communities and groups for LGBTQ+ community like on Facebook and such. That's where I had to turn for some needed support. And it's not so much about labels but more just being you and start with some simple conversations. 🤗🗣️

  • dysturbation

    44d

    Bi/pan, polyamorous, grayace, and genderfluid myself (specifically genderfaun, which means I experience masculine and nonbinary genders but not feminine ones). I wear shirts and bracelets with the colors of pride flags to let other LGBTQ+ people know I'm one of them.

  • LaLaBlak

    5d

    I'm pansexual an nonbionary I feel ya. I got no friends cause there's no one really where I live. No one to just hang out an be a friend to me an my system.

  • Teardrops

    5d

    Although I am sure people will jump down my throat my expressing my thoughts… but not everyone lives in the LGBTQ+ world. Oh let me add I have the same right to express myself as you do. Never knew anyone with the labels you gave. Have no idea what they mean. Which is whatever if you have to feel you have to throw out labels and only want to associate with other who are exactly like you - you’re going to miss out of great people who don’t label themselves the same as you. I don’t know your story and you don’t know mine. Why it so important to throw out the gender and sexual identity. I sure hope there is more to who you are…… I like to have friends and get lonely. I love to text people to talk and share experiences I am not saying hide who you are - identify. But it can turn people off to share so much about yourself before getting to know them.

  • CaramelMixedHoney

    5d

    I believe you won't have to feel lonely for much longer. You are in the right space. Your group that gets you will attract towards you and being alone will make it worth it. Use your voice and that beautiful strength of yours and they will come to you❤️

  • VolcanoMama

    5d

    ❤️

  • CaramelMixedHoney

    4d

    I get what you're saying for sure. I don't think they are saying that want friends just like them, but friends who just simply gets it. There's nothing wrong with people choosing to identify and have labels for themselves especially since it does no harm to you or others. I think that we should be as transparent as possible with people so we don't waste the. Eventually that mask we wear is going to come off.

  • CaramelMixedHoney

    4d

    Why should we worry about scaring people off? The math is not mathing for me.

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