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Overcoming Abandonment Trauma: Tips and Advice

Lashay

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How can I overcome abandonment trauma?

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    • Jcat

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      @shoe that’s because you’ve got so much love to give when you want to be loved. I know exactly how you feel. So many things have happened to me in my life and I have really bad abandonment issues but this is gonna sound really stupid it’s not a complete answer but sometimes it really helps I’ve got two cats and sometimes when I come home they sense my mood or even I don’t really go out much to be honest getting a pet can really sometimes does it take the pain or the feeling of abandonment, but when they come up to you and I just want to be loved and I just want you to stroke them toes make you feel just a little little bit better might not be for long so maybe you can get yourself a little dog or a cat that could be one step

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    • poodlelover28

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      I'd like to know too

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    • Ksmi

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      I definitely agree with everyone above, somatic therapy has been a god send for me, and I truly believe the only reason I’m still here & improving. Our bodies hold on to so much, more than we realize. It’s all connected. I searched on psychology today for a psychologist that fit what I was needing and I would just keep looking until I narrowed it down and then set up consultation calls & got a vibe for them until I had just one left. It can be tough, but the fact that you’re even acknowledging there is work to be done is a huge step! I have done EMDR & brainspotting as well, that’s another one to look into. I like emdr, it’s sometimes too activating for me though, so brainspotting is a more gentle way to get similar results. Also a lot of psychologists do offer sliding scale based on income, so definitely inquire about that if income is a barrier!

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    • Nat123

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      I don’t think you do. The people who love you will know to provide reassurance and if they don’t , they aren’t for you. I believe people like myself require a lot of patience and a gentle person .

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    • Moonnite

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      My mom would leave me alone to do drugs my own thing that helped me was to put myself into what I enjoyed and become my own best friend it’s fun and lonely but at least you can trust yourself to be there for you imo

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    • Jcat

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      I know exactly how you feel. I suffer with abandonment issues and rejection issues. I also was adopted but only found out about 12 years ago from my biological family don’t want to know me I have reached out to my adopted family. Don’t want to know after my dad died 22 years ago this year, which I still haven’t got over. It hurts and it interferes with my life I’m paranoid think everyone hates me. My relationships don’t exist

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      • shoe

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        @Jcat That sounds awful I'm sorry that happend! I am still figuring out how to lower my shield. I'll talk to people and become friends with them. But be cautious with not trying to get to attached with them or be possessive. It's hard man 😮‍💨

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        • Jcat

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          @shoe that’s because you’ve got so much love to give when you want to be loved. I know exactly how you feel. So many things have happened to me in my life and I have really bad abandonment issues but this is gonna sound really stupid it’s not a complete answer but sometimes it really helps I’ve got two cats and sometimes when I come home they sense my mood or even I don’t really go out much to be honest getting a pet can really sometimes does it take the pain or the feeling of abandonment, but when they come up to you and I just want to be loved and I just want you to stroke them toes make you feel just a little little bit better might not be for long so maybe you can get yourself a little dog or a cat that could be one step

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    • tjazz

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      While you wait you can look into things like somatic therapy and emdr so that you are educated on types of therapy to address this issue. Also there's great people who share general info on YouTube. But obviously they don't take the place of a medical professional

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      • Lashay

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        @tjazz i would love to give emdr a try i hear it is very helpful thanks so much

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    • Stephaniej12112

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      I agree with @oouchthathurts that q therapist can help you navigate this. I am adopted, so I have that abandonedment trauma plus my adoptive parents being neglectful. It's not a easy fix like 'just do x.' It's a lot of hard work. I still have to work so hard on it after years of therapy because it's so embedded in my nature. You're not alone and it's great that you're starting this process to heal. 💕

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      • Lashay

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        @Stephaniej12112 thanks so much for your comment. a lot of my traumas stem from losing my father at a young age. i find it harder because my brain is so analytical so i feel like i just need to do one thing to help but it is a lot of hard work. i am currently seeing a therapist but i do hope to get more help.

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        • Stephaniej12112

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          @Lashay i get that! Sorry about your dad. That must be really tough. My brain is still like that sometimes like everyone has some secret answer that will make it all better. Wishing you lots of luck and healing

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    • Oouchthathurts

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      Overcoming these traumatic experiences is not something that ever has to be done alone, and it is normal to need the help of trained mental health professionals. I’d start with finding someone in psychotherapy or talk to your primary care provider to help you get the names & referrals you need to start this process.

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      • Lashay

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        @Oouchthathurts Thanks for your comment i plan to find others who i can get more advice from and maybe some group therapy. if you have any suggestions please feel free to let me know

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