LyricRainn111

81d

I’ve been in this state for 3 years, as of May and I still can’t make any friends. It’s taken me a lot to beat social anxiety and to actually make an effort to talk to people, yet it still hasn’t happened. Feeling extremely discouraged to say the least. I just want a friendship where we can be there for each other and grow together. No more one-sided stuff. But it feels like I will never get it… Why can’t I make friends like everyone else? I’ve never been able to.

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

Depression

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  • alyssa25

    81d

    Same here I have never been able to also

  • Entropyluna

    81d

    I definitely understand the feeling 😥

  • CirceAtaraxia

    81d

    Yeah me too, I feel like I’m trying so hard to unmask and feel like I can have friends but no one sticks around.

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      Exactly! The friendships are always so short when they do happen :/

  • MissWilwarin

    80d

    I’ve been using this app called Boo and I think it could be very helpful in finding friends. As with anything, it’ll take time to find the right connection, but that’s ok. I also think this is a good app where you could potentially make friends.

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      Thanks for letting me know about that! I’m currently using Bumble BFF. The convos never last on there, tho, so im scared the same thing would happen and cause more disappointment. But I agree I could see that!

  • Louva_bug

    80d

    Unfortunately you gotta find the other nuerodivergent people in my experience, once you get your group of weirdos together it’s amazing. I don’t think I have a single friend who’s nuerotypical, which I didn’t do on purpose but we all just click together

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      You’re so right about that honestly. I have two non neurodivergent friends (as far as they and I know) back home but we arent as close as I could be with someone neurodivergent… but I understand why that happens!

  • Legoman511

    80d

    I have the same problem. I recently started using an app for neurodivergents called Hiki, and have made a friend on there.

    • alyssa25

      79d

      I actually met my boyfriend on hiki

      • Legoman511

        78d

        that’s great! I’m happy for you 🤗

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      I tried to use that app, but there arent a lot of members nearby… I may try again! But im glad u made a friend!

  • Cursednoodles

    79d

    What state I’ll be friends😌

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      Michigan 😩

      • Cursednoodles

        66d

        I’m in Texas😭

  • Freia

    79d

    i struggle with this a lot too, i’ve had anxiety for quite a while and as i got older i never learned to cope with it or overcome it so now it’s extremely difficult for me to make friends and interact with people

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      That’s so valid honestly! Anxiety makes it extremely difficult. It still is difficult once you recover from it, because its never fully “gone” but not as much.

  • queenofdaydreams

    79d

    Are you in central florida? We can be friends either way lol

    • LyricRainn111

      69d

      Sadly not, I’m in Michigan, but I do love visiting that area!

  • KittyRosa

    69d

    Man do I feel this and if/when I finally do make sole friends. It doesn't seem to last before I do soemthing to mess it up 🤷‍♀️ and it is usually doing something I don't understand is causing distress but by the time the distress is discovered it is because the person/people are at a breaking point with whatever it is so instead of catching it earlier and being able to be careful... the damage is done. I genuinely try to be a good person but I recently came to realize that I have had too many narcissistic friends and exs that made it worse by trianing me and conditioning me to be toxically unhealthy codependent that only a narcissistic would love (currently divorcing from such a man of 7 and half years together) and am currently in therapy to unlearn that. Sorry for the word vomit rant that unleashed 😅🤣

    • LyricRainn111

      68d

      no need to apologize! I have been feeling this way forever. Codependency is so hard to beat, I just got out of that mindset last year myself. I am proud of you for going to therapy to unlearn! I know you’ll attract better people soon

  • Eggler

    69d

    I've never been good at making or keeping friends, either. But I also feel more depressed with them than without. 🤔 I'm lucky to be in touch with one friend, and my other is my partner of five years. Not stressing over friends and finding comfort in my own company was good on me. I still get a little lonely sometimes, but I have work and hobbies to keep me busy. I have games I like to call "friend simulators" (like 1bitHeart or Persona), and podcasts where the hosts kinda fill that void. Penpals are another option. I've met a lot of interesting people through the Slowly app.

    • LyricRainn111

      68d

      That definitely is lucky. Finding your own hobbies definitely can be helpful, and im in the process of trying to find my own too. I’m definitely going to look into those options though. ❤️

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