Dealing with a Miscarriage: How to Cope and Move Forward

* tw miscarriage * * * * * * I am having a miscarriage. I know that I am but my brain won't accept it. I didn't even know I was pregnant. I just got what I thought was a really intense and very unusual period. I called my doctor and they said it was nothing and if I'm really concerned to take a test and let them know. I will not be doing that I don't feel comfortable going back there when they dismissed my concerns about how abnormal everything felt. So I got home and I wasn't even going to take a test but I did and it is positive. How do I do this. How do I tell my partner? I know I need to but I don't want to. I know that is selfish but I don't think I have the strength. It doesn't feel right to grieve for something that was already gone before I even knew. I am so confused and numb.