Temporary Conclusion About My Sexuality

I'm largely unlabeled in my own sexuality besides just being queer, but if I had to sit and dissect it, I'd probably say I'm either pan or bi with a huge preference for men and masculine non-binary people. And as a non-binary person, I'm seen as Woman Lite despite not being a woman. So I get the struggle of invalidation. I think part of the reason I refuse to use the label bi is BECAUSE I worry that people would be like "So you're just straight :/" Bisexuality isn't always a stepping stone to realizing you're gay. Bi people can just be bi. Whatever people realize their identity is is awesome, but I see a big problem with gay men and lesbians assuming that just because many of them identified as bi before identifying as gay, that everyone else is like that. In their case, they experienced compulsory heterosexuality, but it's not like that for everyone. Some people just really like multiple genders, and can have a preference for the opposite agab