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i've been so focused on fixing my past i haven't even started thinking of the future. i have no idea where i want to go for college, i can barely drive, i haven't prepared at all. i'm not ready, but i'm still being thrown out into the real world next year, and i'm so afraid

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    • renelaine

      568d

      I felt the exact same way. I was so messed up I couldn’t think about my future— I just couldn’t see myself doing anything. So, against my parents’ wants, I took a “gap year.” I got a job working in a cookie bakery, got an apartment with my best friend, and took the time I needed. I didn’t know that it was a gap year at the time; I thought I didn’t want o go to college. As time went along, and I got to heal more, I decided that I wanted to go to college in London. So that’s what I did. There is no shame in taking the time that you need to regroup and really get to know yourself before you make any big decisions like that. There will be feelings of guilt and shame at first, because these are conditioned, but eventually you’ll come out the other side more understanding of yourself. You know what is best for yourself; all you have to do is listen

    • renelaine

      568d

      I felt the exact same way. I was so messed up I couldn’t think about my future— I just couldn’t see myself doing anything. So, against my parents’ wants, I took a “gap year.” I got a job working in a cookie bakery, got an apartment with my best friend, and took the time I needed. I didn’t know that it was a gap year at the time; I thought I didn’t want o go to college. As time went along, and I got to heal more, I decided that I wanted to go to college in London. So that’s what I did. There is no shame in taking the time that you need to regroup and really get to know yourself before you make any big decisions like that. There will be feelings of guilt and shame at first, because these are conditioned, but eventually you’ll come out the other side more understanding of yourself. You know what is best for yourself; all you have to do is listen

    • AngelZesai

      568d

      I just went through the same, and let me tell you it will be okay, yeah everyone might seem caught up but those things don’t make you fully prepared, the best way is just to plan what you can do now, and know you still have time, and like the other comments were saying try community college if you can and don’t feel ready or even take a year off, whatever is truly best for you is the best way to go. I’m in college and still can’t drive but learning how to use other transportation definitely helped me become more independent so don’t worry you’ll get there, and just know you can always find outside support and just be confident in what you do even if you don’t know what the fuck your doing, that tip definitely got me through things when I had no idea💀 The real world can be scary but it’s still a very freeing experience even if you don’t know what’s going on. I hope your anxiety over this is somewhat ease and your able to have outside support as well or programs to help you out.

    • sarrosieposie

      568d

      One of my biggest regrets was feeling like I absolutely had to go to college and I wish I stayed home even if it was for a year. I don't really remember a time before I felt "sick" and it just got worse when I went away. My pediatrician never properly addressed anything (i.e. told my mom I was anemic around elementary school but never actually explained to her the side effects like fatigue) I got a new PCP and she was great, she started to address the issues I was having but I was 4 hours away and I wish I was around to do in person check ups more frequently. I did horribly my first few years, I was constantly sick and my joints were becoming more unpredictable than ever. It's ok to not be ready. Is there a way you can work out not going immediately so that you can have a little extra time? Look for local programs or support groups for chronic illness (virtual or in person) because they usually have a lot of resources

    • doglover2899

      568d

      I felt the same way my senior year of high school. I had no idea where I was going to go for college, I had only driven like 10 hours total (and I got my permit at 16 and graduated at 18). I still have my permit and I'm 23 later this month. Have you thought about a community college for your generals? It's less money and you will have time to figure out what you want to do. And despite what people might tell you, companies don't care at all where you get your degree as long as you have one (if it's a job or company that wants one since not all do).

    • darkstarrynight

      568d

      I feel similar, please tag me in the comments, once you get some replies

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