Struggling with Self-Harm and Unsupportive Partner

gahhh thank you🫀I do feel like breaking up with them is kinda drastic tho.. I love them so much and they have held me thru really tough times as well (I guess my post didn't acknowledge that). they have comforted me thru suicide attempts and been there for hospital visits but for some reason they can't get past my self harm rn. I think they are in a weird emotional place rn because of things they are dealing with personally and they said that they don't want to witness violence in their own home which kind of makes sense (but I'm only hurting myself). instead of seeing my point of view and just being there to comfort me, they are dealing with their own fear maybe? idk I do see what your are saying bc it felt VERY invalidating and I'm quite mad at them.. I wish they could just be there for me in this tough moment bc I really need support rn not to be scolded for something I can't control and it ends up hurting me more. they said I was making it about myself but like??? it is about me? I'm the one hitting myself bc I want to die, ya know? I want to have space for their feelings too bc I know they are real but I'm in obvious distress and need support. maybe I'm leaning on them too much?

TW: self-harm Break up with them. That is toxic behavior. They need to be your emotional support system and help you through times like that. They may have never experienced the feeling of having to do that so they don't understand but that's not an excuse to get mad at you and make you feel even worse. (I've been there, I punch my leg and carve it when it gets bad) but my partner has been there to help me, he holds down my hands and whispers comforting words to me to help me calm down then once I stop feeling that need, he hugs me and I just cry and put full weight on him. This is what a healthy relationship is, please don't settle for anything less. Your partner needs to be there for you through the good AND the bad, not just the good.