Balancing Expectations: Prioritizing Your Needs

I remember that no one is going to take care of me if I'm not going to take care of myself. It's not difficult for me to put my health over what others expect of me because I don't care about their opinions. I know what I can and can't handle.

Learn to listen to your body’s needs. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, learn to ask for space and come back to it. It’s hard because people aren’t always respectful of boundaries but most people are fine with you accomplishing a task if you give them a timeline.

Realize that other people's expectations actually have nothing to do with you as you are, it's just want they want from someone to feel good about themselves. Ignore their expectations. I know it's not that easy. But the first step is realizing that they aren't about you.

If I have the extra time and i have the mental health to do so. I help but it comes after my needs are met. It's hard bc I'm still working on not pleasing people. But remaining firm and keeping boundaries are key.

Ha. No. Lol. One of my "overdeveloped" skills is diplomacy. I absolutely will not take care of myself first. I'm working on it, and maybe 5 years from now I'll look back and see progress.

I wish I knew.

Your mental health is more important than events such as parties, get togethers, even planned events. You know yourself the best and if you feel like your mental health is being compromised, don't test it and do what's best for you. It's YOUR life, no one else's. Practicing yoga, mindfulness and meditation really helped me get in tune with myself and helped me calm down and really put things into perspective, like putting myself first.

Oooh this is a great question and something I’m going through now. You have to shut out all the voices that are pressuring you and just listen to the inner voice that is telling you what you need. Just the matter of trusting that voice and taking a leap of faith. What you need is more important that what others expect of you or what you are used to expecting of yourself. Your health comes first.

I just planned things out in my head before doing it or write things that I remember on my calendar in my phone