How to deal with rude remarks and not let them affect you?

Getting into a support group saved me. It helped me learn boundaries and how to care for myself. It gave me strong friendships I had never had and someone I can call when things are overwhelming. Talking to someone who is going through things similar to what I am going through and accepts my feelings without judement keeps me from feeling alone.

1) you are allowed to be sensitive, it is not a bad thing. 2) at least with strangers or people you will likely not see again you have to recognize that they have an entire life of their own and what you are seeing is only a tiny piece of that out of context. 3) you have to build up confidence in yourself- which is hard I know. You have to be brave enough to put yourself out into the open by yourself and look at who you are and who you are not. Knowing yourself better allows you to give yourself and others grace especially when in uncomfortable situations that you wish you could avoid. And then you have to set boundaries with family and friends. You have to have courage and use your voice to tell them whatever is going on is triggering for you and if need be remove yourself from the situation. 4) make yourself a hype playlist- songs that make you wanna get up and dance and songs that just make you feel free- play it in the morning when you’re getting ready or any chance you have alone to just be goofy and be yourself. Mine is normally in the morning when I’m brushing my teeth and hair and getting ready for the day- I refuse to take myself too seriously which then forces me to be incapable of taking others too seriously in situations that I would normally be uncomfortable in. 5) you can’t control others- you can only control yourself. When people are harsh speak up and let them know when they hurt you if you feel like you can do that. If you can’t make up the stupidest reason you can in your mind for why they are so grumpy or angry or etc. It turns it from you thinking it’s about yourself that they are acting that way to putting it into perspective that there is something else likely going on and part of their response to that is coming out towards you Be vulnerable but protect your heart ♥️

So its easier for me to brush it off from strangers, because they never really know the situation or real me. For family tho, and sadly my parents emotionally abused me for 22+ years, it's harder. Part of it was made easier when I kept major parts of my life out of their purview, but recent tragedies have forced a reconciliation and for me to take the berating. I dont have an answer when your family does it bc the reasoning of "they don't know you" falls apart.