Feeling Helpless: How Can I Help My Boyfriend?

You are not responsible for anyone's mental health but your own. All you can do is encourage your partner to find the help they need, cheer on their successes, and be a soft place to land when they struggle. That's all you can do without harming your own mental health.

You are never responsible for ANYONE'S happiness EXCEPT your own. I know easier said than done when you feel how you are feeling right now. I used to feel like if the people around were not happy then it was my fault or my responsibility to make them happy. Because if they were happy then I was happy. It has taken me over 15 years to teach myself that I am not responsible for the happiness of others. It's a state of mind you have to put yourself in. You have to learn to set emotional and mental boundaries for yourself, learn to say no and even though it will upset you at the time (bc it did me) that you are re-training your mind/heart to guard your sanity. Bc in the long run you have to live with you until the day you die. Nobody else has to live with your heart mind and soul but you. Sometimes we have to put distance between what you think or feel is love. And love comes in many forms and "sticking with it" is not the only thing. You have to have yourself well grounded before you are strong enough to attempt to "help" others. Many hugs for you in your journey. It is not and will not be an easy one. Just remember we are here for you, but at the end of the day you need to make the decision that's best for you and your life, and one you can live with. 🤗

I'm in a similar situation. I have no advice. Just wanted you to know you're not alone. Hugs 🫂