Feeling Underappreciated in My Friend Group

Have you tried asking directly for someone else to plan things? I'm sure there is a kind and open way of asking that wouldn't make people defensive

I felt the same way before. I realized if they don't appreciate what I do and see how I am doing then why should I have them in my life. Theirs no need to have someone in your life if they don't appreciate you. Just a simple "How are you" makes me feel appreciated. No need to feel unappreciated if you can do something about it. Try talking to them about how your feeling. They may not realize it.