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(NSFW) I have noticed that I always dissociate whenever I’m the one who is receiving during sex. even though I have a long-term partner who I know to be safe. It’s that thing where you’re watching your body and wondering what it might do next. And you lose the feeling of emotions or anything like that. Why would I feel unsafe to dissociate like fully every time even after so many years? Most of my trauma isn’t even sex related. I generally don’t like receiving because it’s more complicated and less satisfying but I know my partner enjoys it sometimes and I just don’t know how to un-dissociate when it comes to sex. It’s like I feel the anxiety and fear tension build in like 2 seconds and then snap, I’m dissociated for the rest of it. Anyone have any advice? I have tried mindfulness but I think I just dissociate for that too.
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I don't have answers, because I'm still looking for a them myself, but maybe you'd be willing to tell me more about your emotional block? I have a hard time feeling anything that isn't adrenaline-caused anxiety/excitement or lack of dopamine/serotonin depression. Have you found any way around that? How does it affect your relationships?
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If something is making you uncomfortable or causing you negative effects in any way during sex... stop doing that thing. If a particular act is making you dissociate, that's a sign of a boundary you might be ignoring. I agree with explodingatom, your preferences are your boundaries. You shouldn't have to put those aside for someone else, long term partner or no
You're saying that you generally don't like receiving. That's WHY you feel unsafe during certain sex acts. Your preferences ARE your boundaries. If you're a top, you can't force yourself to be a bottom. Please pay attention to what your comfortable with and communicate that to your partner. If your partner doesn't listen to you speaking up about these things that's a major red flag. Though I don't know your situation, particularly in terms of how much you've communicated to your partner.
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@ExplodingAtom thanks for helping me figure out how to know my boundaries! definitely got to work on being more aware of them and communicating them more firmly.
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@IndigoBro I'm happy I could be helpful to your situation!
Are you sure it stems from trauma and not gender dysphoria? There was a long period of time where I thought my sex repulsion and disassociated during recieving sex bc of my sex based trauma but now the only thing that has changed is that ive been on testosterone long enough and have a partner who directly helps so I don't have as much bottom dysphoria any longer and I've realized that it's pretty much entirely correlated to the dysphoria.
@AnimalBoy wow u r so right it’s totally bottom dysphoria. Everything makes more sense now.
@IndigoBro I'm glad I could help! If you need any other advice or anything feel free to message me:3
Have you ever thought about looking into a sex therapist? I've heard they can be quite helpful. But I get the issue. It's a hard one to deal with.
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