Dealing with Divorce and Mental Health Issues

I have previously left a relationship because of my partner's BPD. Another time a partner left me because of my BD. What I learned is that no one should think negatively of themselves because of their actions - only realize that our conditions can make partnership hard and it is sometimes best for two people to go separate ways. We are all on a constant journey of self-improvement, whether diagnosed with a disorder or not, and there is something to be said for finding your worth in growth. It's the meaning of life, after all.

Yea. I thought I had it totally together in my 20’s. I got a scholarship to a great school in Chicago, almost finished in 3 years. I was in a long term relationship from 18-25, became engaged at 23. I went to graduate school at 22 for my MBA. Sounds picture perfect . I was living a nightmare. I was constantly exhausted. My former partner and I should have never been together, it was toxic. I had a hard time accepting this, and was heavily pressured by my dysfunctional parents who had their own issues to do and be whatever they wanted me to be that I pushed myself over the edge . Now, even though I’m sicker, I’m with a very very loving and caring man for the last two years . I had to go t he rough a lot of heartache and self discovery to accept that part of me. I also had to accept that that relationship ran its course. I’m so glad for the first time in 10 years Since being diagnosed Im properly medicated. People are ridiculous and so is society and their standards. It’s as if we are all supposed to wake up at a certain age and have a checklist accomplished, and if you don’t there is, “something is wrong with you . 🙄” If this Pandemic has showed people anything it’s that society’s standards are ridiculous and clearly no one had any idea what they were doing… at least those are my thoughts. The right partner will love and appreciate you and will appreciate what you can give as well. Hang in there ❤️

I have felt that way when I’ve dated a couple of guys. It takes time to “get over it” the best thing I can say is you needs someone who appreciates the person you are and can understand what you go through and those things should also go both ways. And communication is very important as well. I hope that helps!

So sorry that happened to you. I’ve been left by people for similar reasons. I finally found someone who understands my condition.

He obviously wasn’t the right person for you. Because the right person will stand by you when you’re at your worst and will celebrate with you at your best and won’t give a damn about your baggage. Sending love ♥️

My husband left me last April for the same reason. I have BPD and BP2. I definitely understand the feelings you are experiencing. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. I wish I could give you the answers, but I am struggling myself. You are not alone, but that does not make your experience any less difficult. I absolutely wish you the best.