Struggling with Trust and Closeness

Yeah, the only way I get through it is by reminding myself that a life where I can't trust anyone is a life I would not prefer. To be alive is to feel pain, and if I always protect myself from pain, I'm also keeping myself from potential joy. I'm smart and I've learned a few things over the years about recognizing bad people, and although some still slip through, I have to trust myself. I also try not to predict the future. It's easier said than done, but I try to live in the moment and sort of deal with issues as they arise. I keep myself in that mindset by reminding myself of all the times people have proven they care about me.

Yes I find it hard to even respond to texts and emails and that shouldn’t be a daunting task but I find it to be quite often 😥

Yeah that definitely wouldn't help.

Ugh yes!! my dad also has drilled in my head since I was a kid to “trust no one” so that also doesn’t help :/

Yes, I sometimes feel isolated even while being comforted.

Yes omg, it’s terrible, if they do one thing I just get weary of trusting them in the future it is difficlt

I think letting the right ones know when you're feeling insecure helps too.

Yeah. Even when you know they're good sometimes you still wonder what might make them leave.

Yeah, even if I've told my bf he's the first person I've really relax like I would, part of me still feels unsafe to trust and push him away.

oh 100%. i still have my moments of flinching at the touch of my husband, or even thinking my best friend of 8+ years is going to turn on me one day. i think what helped me is to remember that trust is blind, but intuition’s eyes are wide open.

Learning to listen to my intuition has been the biggest thing.

Yes

What steps have you been taking to improve?

I've been improving. But still sometimes hard.

Yep 100% that’s why I have never been in a real relationship with anyone.