I understand ❤️ even though I've never been in a relationship. Know you don't have to be perfect to be in a relationship but the effort you are putting into yourself now is going to do u and ur future partner a lot of good in the long run 💕
i know that feeling. two tangible things that may help -
1. you can get that good good oxytocin (“the love hormone”) in non-romantic ways: a hug from or good talk with a friend, petting an animal, etc.
2. you can take yourself on dates to do the things that you love. liveshow or local festival in town? movie that you want to see? ice cream parlor you’ve been eyeing? local park that looks nice to stroll around? doing things you enjoy and can look forwards to is so, so good in learning to be your own person.
I agree with this, but there does come a point at which doing things on your own ceases to be enough. There always has to be a balance. Personally, I like to work on myself in order to be a better partner and increase my chances of success in dating.
that’s fair. companionship (romantic or otherwise) is a very good thing! humans were meant to live in community!
there’s also much value in learning to enjoy the person you yourself are and spending time in your own company, and i think that’s especially important after getting out of a relationship that isn’t good. i tend to put more of an emphasis on the idea of working on your relationship with yourself because societally there tends to be more of an emphasis on couples couples couples.
I know how you feel what I try not to do is reminisce in that thought because it just literally is like strapping an anchor to my ankles and then tossing it in the water. I don't want to drown in my depression. What I do is I pray to God that HE WILL lead me to someone who can not only better sharpen me as a person but also support me mentally and emotionally
Do you have any pets? I know that it’s definitely not the same as a romantic relationship with a human, but the love of a pet is still amazing. They have so much love to give and lots of kisses and cuddles. As an autistic, I would choose pets over humans any day if I had to.
I getchu. I was in a relationship for 7 years, married 3 of those years. Met the first 2 months of college. Moved in together after month 3. We were inseparable for 7 years. Then she cheated on me. She treated me like shit at the end. But I still miss her. I miss what it feels like to be loved and to be whole with another person. I miss the way love feels. It's been 4 years since we divorced. 2 years alone in our house now. It feels empty without her. I feel empty. And alone. I miss (her) hugs too. Just being close to someone and feeling their heartbeat. It sucks. Being loved and intimate is beautiful. I miss it too. I feel your feels.
I have a cat and the one thing I like about cats is that they're very low maintenance and it's almost like the cat knows when I'm down and the cat comes over and kind of lets me pet her
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I just want to be caressed, kissed, loved. I miss this feeling. It sucks because I’m not quite ready to seek out a relationship. I just feel so alone.
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