I told my boyfriend about my past relationships a long time ago and I have been abused mentally and emotionally in past relationships and I always struggle with it. today I was in the bathroom and he comes in and says why are you on your phone in the bathroom. I have a reason to be insacure and I was like why do u need to be insacure he's said, I don't know what your doing in there. we'll I do the same I tell him all the time that I'm insacure about him being in the bathroom but I don't walk in on him. I wait for him to get out today we got into a argument about it and in my past way before I met him I cheated on a guy I was with I was younger and so stupid and I feel so upset about it I shouldn't have done that. But I told my boyfriend about my past and he always judges me and starts stuff with me I get so depressed all the time because of it he told me today to "get over it " about my past relationships where I was abused mentally and emotionally idk how to talk to him about how I feel. My boyfriend is a very good man he and I fight sometimes but it's because we don't know how to communicate with each other.
He sounds like he cares, but he doesn't know how to express it. If you both love each other you will get through this. But him bringing it up over and over throwing it in your face everytime he is upset is just his insecurities showing. And those are some of his own personal demons he has to work on and overcome. But never let it get to the point where he is mentally abusing you and you just don't know it. All the good guys are good at pretending in the beginning.
So If he loves you and you love him after every fight you two will become stronger and get to know how to love each other a little but better each time. Just don't let yourself get into a situation where he's getting more out of it then you are,
I get being insecure, but it sounds like you both need some sort of therapy and work on communicating. Based off what you said, he is being abusive by acting that way after you have opened up to him about your past. You were honest with him and he has decided that is reason enough to treat you like you're doing something you're not and have already admitted to deeply regretting so from your past. Sounds like emotional immaturity on both ends but especially his. If he was a good guy he wouldn't be judging you about your past and treating you differently for being honest about it. I would highly suggest therapy. Please look out for yourself and have self respect enough to not allow him to treat you like that. You deserve better. We are all a work in progress. Good luck.
we are in couples therapy together
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