D3monicRat

293d

I live with my mom and we both have BPD and I absolutely CANNOT stand her. I don't have enough money to move out yet but I don't know how to deal with her for the meantime. Anyone else deal with BPD parents? and how do you deal with them?

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • Shansully

    293d

    Luckily for me, I don’t live with my stepmom (with BPD) full time. I myself have BPD too and I live with that all day every day. What I do (when I’m with my stepmom) is try to sympathize with her instead of immediately jumping to anger. Easier said than done. It’s a complicated situation and I wish you all the best.

    • D3monicRat

      293d

      yeah I've been trying it's just rough :/ thank you though

      • anemone

        293d

        its much harder when you live with them than when you dont, my mom isnt diagnosed but displays a lot of the traits. i just spent a lot of time alone in my bedroom while i lived with my parents. when it was especially bad, i would avoid being in the public spaces of the house except for at dinner. i also did a lot of discord calls with my friends so i could grab dinner and go back to my room. try to find ways to set boundaries, be firm with them. if she tries to cross them, leave the house for a bit. go for a walk, go spend time with a friend, go to the library, etc. you know your situation and what ways you cab work around it better than anyone. you're an adult and you deserve your own space. you could also always see if you have a good friend who could house you one day a week or something like that, just to ease the burden of full-time living with your mom. the same friends might make roommates - ask around among friends, especially if they're also still living at home. and as long as you are safe, you don't need to worry too much about the state of your relationship with her - it will get way, way easier to have a healthy relationship once you're not living together and healing can happen then. for now, focus on keeping yourself safe from the effects of the clashing bpd

  • D3monicRat

    289d

    I really hope it improves with time. Just trying to live with another BPD person is pretty unbearable. I guess we do feel like we're attacking each other constantly so.. it's not great. I'll be out of here soon enough hopefully.

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