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Rokka

616d

first thing i should say, my mom and i dont have a good relationship, we dont agree on things, it always has to be her way or else its wrong, she has done mulitple things to me to cause and worsen my mental health(some are just from genetics), and just alot of stuff i dont wanna share too much bout. a couple days ago in the car to the doctor, my mom told me that my biological father has something mentally wrong with him, then proceeded to tell me I have something mentally wrong with me. is she anyway in the right to tell me this? she also said that he is an embarrassesment, when I asked if I was she hesitated on saying no. she also hid and never told me anything about him for years. is there something wrong with me? I'm conflicted bc when I told her what makes me upset she ignored me and told me "I never promised to do (blank)", and telling me she won't try to help or accommodate to my needs. (I was super stressed and she was putting more on me by doing something)

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    • Metal

      616d

      TLDR; We're here for you, friend Straight up she just doesn't seem like an empathetic person and maybe even hard headed. Sorry if that's a bit out of line but going off what you're saying I don't think she really knows how to handle the particular situation. Can't say she's in the right or wrong but the way she handles things isn't helpful and I'm sorry you're going through that. Is there something wrong with you? I'm no doctor but you seem to have a sound enough head on you that you aren't a danger to society so even if there is something wrong, and there's a little something about all of us here that is a little funky, I hope we can help you work through it

    • trisevan_77

      616d

      I don't want you to think you're victimizing yourself! Your feelings are valid. Is there any possibility you can take some time away from your mom to process your feelings better? If she's causing stress in your life, you deserve space if you need it. We all do have something wrong with us. All that matters is you try your best to take care of yourself moving forward, especially emotionally/mentally.

    • Metal

      616d

      TLDR; We're here for you, friend Straight up she just doesn't seem like an empathetic person and maybe even hard headed. Sorry if that's a bit out of line but going off what you're saying I don't think she really knows how to handle the particular situation. Can't say she's in the right or wrong but the way she handles things isn't helpful and I'm sorry you're going through that. Is there something wrong with you? I'm no doctor but you seem to have a sound enough head on you that you aren't a danger to society so even if there is something wrong, and there's a little something about all of us here that is a little funky, I hope we can help you work through it

      • Rokka

        616d

        @Metal I don't know if there is anything wrong with me. But I've done things to myself, and promised my partner I wouldn't hurt myself again, and havent so far. I couldn't hurt another person so no need to worry about that! I'm sorry I couldn't fully explain how my mom is like, obviously it seems super blamey and victimizing (they tell me I'm victimizing myself when I say things are their fault, or that they had a hand in a certain situation that caused something else if that makes sense?). Thank you so much too! She's not too Empathetic, I don't remember when she said that she loved me or even hugged me, with the situation part, she was the one who started talking about stuff on how she thinks my adderall is making me irritable when I've been stressed eith trying to find and apply to schools, and I've been taking birthcontrol pills up until a few days ago and that's were my irritibity is coming from but she's very focused on how I'm taking adderall and instantly uses it as a escape goat whenever I show more emotion than my usual self (pretty calm and not really talkative, to her at least due to her comments). Btw I'm sorry if I'm rambling or saying too much! Or if things don't make sense!

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