Can't Stand My Partner's Mom

Honestly, my favorite trait about manipulators is their inherent fear of being seen by survivors. The thought of loving somebody you raise, without the security of being able to control them, is so scary she’d rather reject it in the form of a baby who doesn’t exist, just to hurt you and your partner. You’re already bigger and better, your kid is safe as hell.

I am so sorry. That must be said first. I myself have some toxic inlaws that I am stepping away from at the moment, so I can empathize with pain caused by such relatives. I hope your partner can see what is happening sooner than later. I also want to give you a shout out on recognizing what is what and that neither of you deserve such treatment!

Her not wanting anything to do with your future child is a blessing. She's toxic. She might change her tune when you actually have a child, in which case you can very politely remind her of her previous statement.

My partner’s mom is similar in that she’s insanely manipulative. Like I thought my grandma was the queen of manipulation but she can’t hold a candle to this woman. He’s sick so he can’t go to her holiday thing, and when he called her about it all she did was guilt him. Like ma’am he can’t keep water down right now. I don’t understand how someone can treat their own child like that.