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CozyVibez

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I broke up with my man last night because I we weren't compatible in several ways. One issue I do think contributed was my constant state of "fight or flight." I don't think I was vulnerable enough with him, and our relationship suffered from it. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to improve this with the next one? My anxiety overall is well managed, but it just wasn't so with him.

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    • Leviross

      594d

      Just don't expect it to be difficult with the next guy. Be open to how it naturally flows. People can say they understand but it doesn't mean they do. I only had anxiety problems when I was with my ex. He ended up dumping me pretty much saying it was because I didn't get over my issues for him. There was also the fact he fell for another guy, a friend of ours, but that's a different matter. The next guy I started talking to, I was completely open about everything. He actually helped me get the nerve to go to the doctor and it was after I developed fibro. He was very understanding and actually interested in knowing what was going on and everything. So, just be open without expectations. I'd like to find a guy with fibro, a fibroyfriend. :)

    • Leviross

      594d

      Just don't expect it to be difficult with the next guy. Be open to how it naturally flows. People can say they understand but it doesn't mean they do. I only had anxiety problems when I was with my ex. He ended up dumping me pretty much saying it was because I didn't get over my issues for him. There was also the fact he fell for another guy, a friend of ours, but that's a different matter. The next guy I started talking to, I was completely open about everything. He actually helped me get the nerve to go to the doctor and it was after I developed fibro. He was very understanding and actually interested in knowing what was going on and everything. So, just be open without expectations. I'd like to find a guy with fibro, a fibroyfriend. :)

    • Somatosedreams

      595d

      It's honestly tough to balance mental health and relationships. Your best bet is to be as open as possible right from the start. That way there is no surprises. Explain everything. If they can't handle it then it's best to figure that out early on.

      • CozyVibez

        595d

        @Somatosedreams I did explain everything early on, including depression, migraines, and fibromyalgia. He said he'd work on it with me. I guess he didn't have it in him:(

        • Somatosedreams

          594d

          @CozyVibez it takes a special person to fully understand someone else's illnesses, especially mental illness. A lot of people think they can handle that stuff and then they can't. Same thing happened to me in my last relationship. She ended up showing that she had no understanding of my struggles. All you can really do is just be open up front and hope for different results. And honestly, if it doesn't work out as you hoped it's okay, it just wasn't meant to be.

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