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The best way to listen to your partner or friends and not interrupt them?

Attention-Deficit Disorder

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  • Elise_Laura

    283d

    Stop thinking of responses. Listen to understand, not judge. Be slow to anger. 🙌🏻

  • Cas_499

    283d

    The first thing I do when I'm really close to someone is explain how my brain works, so that way if I ever do interrupt them they know what's going on. But my partner kind of breaks down the things he has to say into small sections now so I can respond without my brain overwhelming me or causing me to cut him off. I honestly try to do something while we talk even if it's just play with my fingers. And I just really calm myself down and focus in on his face and really hear the words he's saying. It's hard but you're going to get it!

    • KratomEater

      282d

      I have had this same thing for quite some time. But like you said not breaking eye contact is pretty helpful! I do find that even if I do this I still pick up 5 different sounds or even other conversations around me. I’ve had to really explain to my loved one how my brain works. It’s especially hard for others to understand if they don’t have this. We can come across as rude or inconsiderate because it appears we aren’t listening or forget to do things.

  • E11iefant

    282d

    Repeat every word they say in your head as they’re talking! This keeps me from thinking about what I’m gonna say next.

    • KratomEater

      282d

      oh interesting, maybe I’ll try that

  • Marface

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    I have memory problems as well so if someone is talking to me or are preoccupied, I write down my thoughts that I want to share with them on my phone and once the conversation opens up I'll bring up my thoughts. Most of my friends and family get that I'm not ignoring them, but some are still pretty old school and get upset I'm not staring into their soul when they talk.

  • Y0g1

    281d

    Work on recognizing when you begin to zone out or think of other things. Have them stop so that you can refocus- shows them that you care about what they are saying and you are working towards truly listening as opposed to just hearing.

    • KratomEater

      280d

      yeah I can see how this helps! Only thing is I think most people don’t know how or aren’t serious enough to be proactive about making real change🤷🏽 I was like that until I took one step out of desperation. I downloaded this and started listening to affirmations on YouTube before and while I sleep. There’s one that’s particularly good, if you search for Progressive Hypnosis they have a bunch. Here’s an 8 hour one that I love and has changed my life! https://youtu.be/KvPlrreN7s4

      • Y0g1

        280d

        see I like songs that make me feel seen. “Headache” by Carolina Rial and “You Don’t Know” by Katelyn Tarver are my go to songs when I’m feeling unseen/misunderstood- may not have to do exactly with this thread but still! Those songs make me feel seen ♥️♥️

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