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My chiweenie puppy named Tohma (Named after my late husbands middle name. Same poor abused puppy my ex girlfriend wanted me to get rid of. Also same woman who was trying to strike him for licking her.) whose 6 months old is having a few issues. This all started since my ex girlfriend dumped me because I called her out on her cheating. My girlfriend left and now it's just myself and Tohma. 1. He's wetting on bedding on her old side of the bed. 2. He's digging up her planter boxes in the backyard. 3. He is constantly my little shadow when at home and looks worried about me. 4. He is developing severe separation anxiety anytime I leave the house. He screams, cries, and howls. 5. He's abruptly chewing on my phone cord, stuffed animals, and anything else interesting. 6. He waits at the door staring for hours waiting for her. Then he comes to me heart broken and curls up in my lap. 7. He refuses to eat unless I heat his food up a tiny bit with water. I feel horrible my dog is hurting about someone who never cared about either of us. He seems to be hurting far more then I am. He was doing so good and now seems to of back slid because of her leaving. He's taking it so hard. I just don't know what to do to help him. I've researched all kinds of stuff the last couple days...half of it contradicts itself. One website says one thing and then the other website says NOT to do it. So does anyone here have any KIND but SERIOUS advice? I took him to the vet and they say he's healthy and there is nothing wrong. So he isn't sick thank heavens. I can't afford a dog trainer and I don't even know if there is a such thing as a dog therapist. My ex is all the way in another state now, I dare not let her have contact with him again- just to hurt him all over again. I refuse to rehome him, I won't give up on my baby. He and I have in 3 weeks been through so much together. He needs me just as much as I need him. He's my ride or die.

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    • Tress

      528d

      I rescued a chiweenie that was abused. We got her when she was 9 months old.we had a lot of issues like what you are describing. What we did is we were patient with her and gave her routines like took her for walks and when she potties outside we give her treats. We gave everything away that she was hit with. My chiweenie is now 13 years old and a happy dog. She still covers when we call her but we always comfort her. This type of dog tends to attach to one person or family. They are very precious breed and will be a good life long friend. Also you might need to get a small kennel crate for inside the house so when you leave he has somewhere to chill. It worked with mine.

    • Tress

      528d

      I rescued a chiweenie that was abused. We got her when she was 9 months old.we had a lot of issues like what you are describing. What we did is we were patient with her and gave her routines like took her for walks and when she potties outside we give her treats. We gave everything away that she was hit with. My chiweenie is now 13 years old and a happy dog. She still covers when we call her but we always comfort her. This type of dog tends to attach to one person or family. They are very precious breed and will be a good life long friend. Also you might need to get a small kennel crate for inside the house so when you leave he has somewhere to chill. It worked with mine.

    • ajar

      528d

      I've worked at a dog daycare for over a year and I've seen dogs whose parents have split up. It does cause stress for them, if we can see it at daycare we could only imagine how it was at home. While I'm not a certified trainer and won't be able to help with the emotional side for your pup (there are dog therapists but if a trainer would be too expensive then a therapist is way out of reach), I can offer some advice that might help. Look up dog enrichments, especially ones that will be good for your pup's breeds, and they'll help tire him out during the day more than any walk or regular exercise could. Try puzzle toys, or since weiners are rodent hunting dogs you could hide treats under a blanket on the floor so he has to find them. Anything that gets his brain working will help a lot, just like doing calculus homework takes a bigger mental toll than going for a run. If you adopted him from a shelter or rescue, you could also look into seeing if they have any post-adoption training resources. My local humane society offers discounted classes to parents who adopted from them, maybe there's something similar available to you? I don't know how long it's been since your ex left, but you're absolutely right not to have him see her again, it will just confuse him. In my experience, the pups at the daycare whose parents split did settle into it and calmed down after a little while, but I couldn't guess the amount of time that would take for Tohma. My pup is 9y/o and has severe separation anxiety, and using CBD oil has helped her with that. There are also a lot of dogs at work that take anxiety medications like Prozac, Xanax, and Trazodone, but I don't know anything about prescriptions or pricing unfortunately

    • Heaven197987

      528d

      Cbd treats can help his anxiety

    • Faithe

      528d

      Take him with you places

    • nsiberian

      528d

      Also don't forget to take a long walk, exercise does wonders for the mind, especially in dogs when it comes to anxiety and behavior issues

    • nsiberian

      528d

      You can also try wet food

    • nsiberian

      528d

      Try not they

    • nsiberian

      528d

      They kenneling the dog when you leave so he's not destroying anything or hurting himself. Try to get some acepromazine from vet, it is used for 4th of July and other triggering situations. If I think of anything else I will also add that

    • courtnehh

      528d

      All I can do is offer my support. That’s a terrible situation.

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