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just a vent / worrying buti don't know what to do... my partner and I have been together for 5 years(my freshman year/ his junior year of high school ). his mother has never really liked me but recently she's been more admit about him leaving me... she says I'm going to hold him back and that I'm just going to "mouch of the government her whole life" but I'm in collage and I'm working towards being my own boss while he's just now starting to think about his future career... im not shaming him but I'm just saying im not the one holding him back when I've been pushing myself forward and he has just been idle

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    • TheBigSpook

      433d

      Mothers are hard. Especially when they’re not your own mother. If she’s saying it to your face, maybe tell her what’s what and that you’re applying yourself and growing and working towards your goals and future. She might be a sour lady, or she’s just being overprotective of her son. If she’s saying it to your partner and he’s then relaying it to you, you can set a boundary and ask him not to tell you what his mother says about you, and it’s not too much to ask that he defend you to his mother either. I’ve had to defend my partners before, and usually my parent was just oblivious to the entire situation

    • fruitpunk

      432d

      My boyfriend’s transphobic and homophobic mother also loves to talk bad about me (even though I’m literally the ideal son-in-law) and has banned me from her house. It’s infuriating and depressing. I’m sorry you’re experiencing it as well. We have to keep reminding ourselves that we’re good people and partners. They’re the ones who are missing out, not us. I hope you and your partner have a good day 💕

    • avian

      433d

      i've had partner's parents hate me too 😬 it's really scary and disheartening. but at the end of the day it's not their say on who their child dates. i'm sorry you're going through this, it's always hard. just try to remember that his mom has no basis for saying things like this about you, she's just making things up to cause problems

    • susuwatari

      433d

      The only people in your relationship are you and your partner, don't let his mother make you feel insecure. Maybe communicate with him about how this had made you feel 💛

    • TheBigSpook

      433d

      Mothers are hard. Especially when they’re not your own mother. If she’s saying it to your face, maybe tell her what’s what and that you’re applying yourself and growing and working towards your goals and future. She might be a sour lady, or she’s just being overprotective of her son. If she’s saying it to your partner and he’s then relaying it to you, you can set a boundary and ask him not to tell you what his mother says about you, and it’s not too much to ask that he defend you to his mother either. I’ve had to defend my partners before, and usually my parent was just oblivious to the entire situation

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