The Alike Team

37d

Ever got told your partner is a hero for dealing with your disabilities?

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  • Chan

    37d

    👍yes.

  • Frustrated

    37d

    No

  • Lilspoonie

    37d

    To be fair my partner is a hero to me

  • tigerbear

    37d

    No. We both have chronic mental health problems, she has a chronic pain condition, and I'm AuDHD. People have no idea how tough it is!

  • mommabug82

    37d

    Yes! Dealing with my issues is a full time job

  • FTW

    37d

    No. She left me, told me she didnt want to date and she is going to focus on the kids and then started seeing a man.

  • Thefreddo

    37d

    No but I'm sure people think it, and so do I. She always tells me not to thank her for doing the 'bare minimum' but honestly she is a hero to me, I wouldn't be here without her.

  • RhiRhiRob

    37d

    No, but we both have our issues, and we help each other through them so yeah maybe he is my hero without him I wouldn't be here

  • faerywyrm

    37d

    People told me he was a hero for putting up with my disabilities, but he left because he couldn't deal with even a small portion of them. He's a firefighter. He's a hero in life, just not at home.

  • darkpanda

    37d

    Well my ex was my full-time carer but will I was in hospital for 2 week he broken up with me cos I was to much for him

  • willow_mae

    37d

    no, but we are in a long distance relationship. my hero possibly though, he’s the reason i push through some of the worse days

  • Pasazer

    37d

    YES yet we both have to manage things with each other’s disability.

  • Heather21

    37d

    Nope, because I've never had a partner.

  • casperjasper

    37d

    Never been told it, but I believe it. I feel bad that they have to deal with my issues, and I know it can effect them :/

    • KikiJay

      32d

      I feel exactly the same. I feel guilty and wonder why he stays with me.

  • Moxie_Bluesky

    37d

    Nobody has ever said that to my face but we both have our own chronic conditions. His are more obvious than mine so folks tend to see me as his caregiver.

  • Teardrops

    37d

    No.

  • BraeburnGirl

    37d

    I don’t think my partner gets enough credit, honestly. I get told all the time how strong I am and how brave, but I wish people would tell him that, too. He is my rock and without him, I’d just fall apart.

  • Jgrazia89

    37d

    Mine is definitely my hero. Don’t know where I’d be without that man. 🙌

  • JuliusSeizure

    37d

    If only I had one. Right now all I have is my mom and my doctor.

    • Oouchthathurts

      36d

      and Mom’s are the best! They are your always your number one fan.

  • royalty

    36d

    He hasn't been called a hero but I know people have implied behind my back that he should leave me.

  • wolfbeck

    36d

    Words to that effect... They didn't mean any offence by it so I didn't take any. At the end of the day my partner is mine and my families hero, I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for him and would definitely have zero quality of life. He says I would do the same for him if our positions were reversed which obviously I would but the point is they aren't reversed and probably never will be... I worry every day it will get too much for him and he'll leave. I don't know what I'd do without him

  • Oouchthathurts

    36d

    I’ve never came across this in my lifetime and to think people would actually leave you over a disability/medical illnesses/issues is just crazy to me. A good relationship is a two way street filled with good/bad and support maybe they are not mature enough to be in a relationship or never been exposed to disabilities or medical illnesses/issues throughout their life. My thought on people leaving or not wanting to be in a relationship with persons with disability’s or illnesses is that they could be one step away from having a disability themselves and for them it would take walking in our shoes for them to understand our world. But don’t worry there is a different breed of people who are definitely out there and do have that understanding what people with disabilities and illnesses-go thru on a daily basis, these super hero’s are the ones who are not afraid of making that life journey where ever it goes with someone they care about and support and then they love you thru life’s hard knocks! 💕

    • Chesbro99

      26d

      my partner is thinking about leaving our 4 year relationship because he feels alone because he has to do so much and hates that he has to do so much and my condition isn't even that bad yet. It's very hard

  • Lunako

    36d

    No, no loved one understands

    • Oouchthathurts

      36d

      I’m so glad you found Alike. You have a big support system in place here with so many people who do understand. You’re not alone!

  • LeoLovesFrosty

    36d

    My partner and I are both disabled but he honestly is my hero for dealing with my issues along with his own

  • Lonelyturtle

    36d

    Hahaha no we both have anxiety and adhd 😂

  • ice9kills

    36d

    no, people usually say i'm a burden on him 😥

  • DrakellaEuphrates

    36d

    I think we are heros to each other. We both have mental health issues. No one has said it on the outside though

  • gizmogal

    36d

    Probably I imagine that everyone in his life tells him he could do much better and I'm sure they all ask why he's with me . When he could be with an attractive healthy person .

  • moonlit_shiv

    28d

    Yes, and he is a hero! Dealing with disabilities is difficult, but it’s a whole different challenge when it’s a loved one that is disabled. I respect him a lot for his strength throughout everything. I’m sure he respects me for mine too.

  • bboyonline

    28d

    if my partner is a hero, what am i?

  • Georgie.Girl

    28d

    ❤️

  • Bre19

    27d

    Thankfully no

  • Crystal605

    27d

    Thankfully no on my end but I know my partner has heard stuff like this. Early on in the relationship his parents would constantly tell him that I’d leave him because of his disabilities despite me having a lot of the same disabilities as him.

  • I.am.Lucy

    27d

    No, but only because my husband don't take them serious and ignores any struggle I face with them. My ex was a hero in his way with dealing with them though

  • J.ess

    26d

    I've been told my mom is

  • DahliaAnn

    26d

    Often, I feel bad because I don't feel up to doing what my spouse wants to do because I'm feeling painful. Ex: bike riding, walking together. etc

  • Keeby

    26d

    Yes my nan told me this after she met my boyfriend 😥

  • ickyichthyosaur

    26d

    I was only in a relationship once, and not recently. I was in 10th grade with only a "provisional" autism diagnosis I didn't know about and no known medical issues. All her friends acted like I was their pet project. My brother, on the other hand, has done so much to help me and dealing with me while I was in crisis worsened his ptsd. I don't care if people say he's a hero because he is.

  • Willowthepillow

    2d

    I tell him that. I have mood disorders so he had to put up with so much shit from me

  • Veesgreengarden

    2d

    He's been called a saint and told by so many people that if they were in his shoes they'd have left a long time ago.

  • Satans_lil_devil

    2d

    I can imagine how many times he has been told. It's gotten to the point I've always broken up with him so he doesn't have to "deal with me."

  • 4byfour

    1d

    Nah my last partner was never treated or talked to like a hero. Honestly I didn’t feel like he had anything to do with my mental state. I guess that’s why we broke up, but at the time, that was the healthiest way I knew how to deal with my mind was to keep heavy boundaries. At the times I lowered them I think that’s when we suffered the most as a couple

  • SomeKindaKid

    1d

    I’ve had people tell me they’re gonna hate and leave me lmao

  • UnknownGalaxySystem

    1d

    No, but if someone does I swear I wouldn't be happy.

  • Muffen91

    1d

    He hasn't been told that he's a hero for being with me. He has been told that he's such a "trooper" for putting up with my challenges. He just replies back with "I'm the lucky one in this marriage. I have learned so much from her and I feel bad for you thinking that she's nothing but perfect for me."

  • SapleMyrup

    0d

    Yes a counselor said something along those lines about my former partner and how he handled my mental illnesses. he was actually abusive and used my illnesses to manipulate and control me. but on the outside everyone thought he was such a hero for putting up with me and “supporting” me. i don’t want a hero.

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