Dealing with Disability in a Relationship

No, nobody apart from my mum and sister can cope with it.

What partner he couldn't handle my problems

Yes I have, it happens more then not and sometimes it's really discouraging because in my mind I'm like 'am I really that bad?' Or my favorite one ' you are a horrible person because your partner could be with anyone else but sticks with you because they feel bad' my mind plays nasty tricks

We both have chronic conditions, I often get told by people who know him that I must have the patience of a saint and he gets asked by people who know me how he handles me sometimes.

My husband is an Angel and has rallied since a life /death event. Sometimes it takes a “wake up” for individuals to realize how fragile life is. I believe we all experience trials and tribulations during our life journey! Life is messy!

No my wife doesn't provide me with support with my disability because she doesn't understand what I need and even if she did she couldn't provide for me

No one has told him but he really is a hero. When we met I was sick but o kept getting diagnosed with more and more things, hospital visits, surgeries, procedures, my mobility changed from walking to walking with a cane to know walking with a cane for small amounts then using my mobility scooter. My depression just keeps getting worse. Seeing doctor, therapist, or physical therapist is a full time job. He’s had to do things that most men would have ran for the hills . … but he stayed and he tries so hard to be supportive. He doesn’t quite understand all that goes on with me but lord that man tries. He’s patient and he has learned to understand when I’m getting to overwhelmed when out and about. He helps me up… o could go on and on about all the things this man does for me but yes I would definitely say he’s a HERO

My mom is my hero and i love her and she does more for me than any mom would do for an average not ill child because she is a loving mom and my person i love her and always advocates for me and guides me i love u mama

My mom gets told this. She is my hero but not because of my disabilities, she is my person and immediately shuts someone down if they say this, I'm very lucky to have her

Yes. To be fair, I have said it also, though

I don’t know, but I’ve told him he’s my hero. I know I’m a bit broken, but he holds me together with his love and understanding.

Don’t have one so no

Yes but he is. ❤️

Yes by many people. He is a Sweet man and a hero when I need him to be. I was born with birth defects and sometimes he has to carry me to the bathroom

I’ve been feeling doubtful that love and romance will find me. I’m happy to see so many people like me in beautiful, happy relationships. Restores my hope 💕

Yes. My parents told my wife she was a goddess for being able to handle me. Thanks mom and dad

My parents get told this all the time. Like I'm not a human but a burden.

Yes a counselor said something along those lines about my former partner and how he handled my mental illnesses. he was actually abusive and used my illnesses to manipulate and control me. but on the outside everyone thought he was such a hero for putting up with me and “supporting” me. i don’t want a hero.

He hasn't been told that he's a hero for being with me. He has been told that he's such a "trooper" for putting up with my challenges. He just replies back with "I'm the lucky one in this marriage. I have learned so much from her and I feel bad for you thinking that she's nothing but perfect for me."

No, but if someone does I swear I wouldn't be happy.

I’ve had people tell me they’re gonna hate and leave me lmao

Nah my last partner was never treated or talked to like a hero. Honestly I didn’t feel like he had anything to do with my mental state. I guess that’s why we broke up, but at the time, that was the healthiest way I knew how to deal with my mind was to keep heavy boundaries. At the times I lowered them I think that’s when we suffered the most as a couple

I can imagine how many times he has been told. It's gotten to the point I've always broken up with him so he doesn't have to "deal with me."

He's been called a saint and told by so many people that if they were in his shoes they'd have left a long time ago.

I tell him that. I have mood disorders so he had to put up with so much shit from me

I was only in a relationship once, and not recently. I was in 10th grade with only a "provisional" autism diagnosis I didn't know about and no known medical issues. All her friends acted like I was their pet project. My brother, on the other hand, has done so much to help me and dealing with me while I was in crisis worsened his ptsd. I don't care if people say he's a hero because he is.

Yes my nan told me this after she met my boyfriend 😥

Often, I feel bad because I don't feel up to doing what my spouse wants to do because I'm feeling painful. Ex: bike riding, walking together. etc

I've been told my mom is

No, but only because my husband don't take them serious and ignores any struggle I face with them. My ex was a hero in his way with dealing with them though

Thankfully no on my end but I know my partner has heard stuff like this. Early on in the relationship his parents would constantly tell him that I’d leave him because of his disabilities despite me having a lot of the same disabilities as him.

Thankfully no

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if my partner is a hero, what am i?

Yes, and he is a hero! Dealing with disabilities is difficult, but it’s a whole different challenge when it’s a loved one that is disabled. I respect him a lot for his strength throughout everything. I’m sure he respects me for mine too.

Probably I imagine that everyone in his life tells him he could do much better and I'm sure they all ask why he's with me . When he could be with an attractive healthy person .

I think we are heros to each other. We both have mental health issues. No one has said it on the outside though

no, people usually say i'm a burden on him 😥

Hahaha no we both have anxiety and adhd 😂

My partner and I are both disabled but he honestly is my hero for dealing with my issues along with his own

Words to that effect... They didn't mean any offence by it so I didn't take any. At the end of the day my partner is mine and my families hero, I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for him and would definitely have zero quality of life. He says I would do the same for him if our positions were reversed which obviously I would but the point is they aren't reversed and probably never will be... I worry every day it will get too much for him and he'll leave. I don't know what I'd do without him

He hasn't been called a hero but I know people have implied behind my back that he should leave me.

Mine is definitely my hero. Don’t know where I’d be without that man. 🙌

I don’t think my partner gets enough credit, honestly. I get told all the time how strong I am and how brave, but I wish people would tell him that, too. He is my rock and without him, I’d just fall apart.

Nobody has ever said that to my face but we both have our own chronic conditions. His are more obvious than mine so folks tend to see me as his caregiver.

Nope, because I've never had a partner.

YES yet we both have to manage things with each other’s disability.

no, but we are in a long distance relationship. my hero possibly though, he’s the reason i push through some of the worse days

Well my ex was my full-time carer but will I was in hospital for 2 week he broken up with me cos I was to much for him

No, but we both have our issues, and we help each other through them so yeah maybe he is my hero without him I wouldn't be here

No but I'm sure people think it, and so do I. She always tells me not to thank her for doing the 'bare minimum' but honestly she is a hero to me, I wouldn't be here without her.

No. She left me, told me she didnt want to date and she is going to focus on the kids and then started seeing a man.

Yes! Dealing with my issues is a full time job

No. We both have chronic mental health problems, she has a chronic pain condition, and I'm AuDHD. People have no idea how tough it is!

To be fair my partner is a hero to me

No

👍yes.