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fizzylemonade

595d

i love my partner so much but i feel horrible. i’m constantly upset and i feel like they hold me so high and love me so much and i just don’t deserve it. why would they pick someone like me when they could pick someone normal? i feel like everyone who loves me could do better and deserve more than everything i can supply and it’s heartbreaking

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    • stache

      595d

      I know how you feel. The first step in this is to love yourself. This is going to sound cliche but the one person who is never going away is yourself, so I have told myself I have to love and be there for that person (myself) because if I let myself get out of check and start bullying myself or being hard on myself I cannot escape the hurt. This is an ongoing battle I am facing aswell and it is the hardest battle because nobody can help you love yourself. I have lost so many relationships for being to hard on myself and I’m tired of it. Just know that you are worthy of love and you might not see how amazing you are but because they love you despite whatever you might think is unloveable, maybe you should give yourself a shot :)

    • Katharina

      592d

      Do people with mental health stuff have it harder finding a partner? Next to impossible finding a mental connection…

    • PlaslyMeds

      593d

      I have to say this, and it’s something I had to learn myself: nobody is normal. Everyone has something about them that is different and that is what makes finding a partner both very difficult and very rewarding. Something that you simply can’t stand about yourself may be their perfect place to be, and something they may hate about themselves may not bother you at all.

    • BulletproofRose

      594d

      When I'm at my lowest, these feeling come up for me too. But they also come up for my husband. He wonders why I would want to be with him when he's just a mess and I always have to take care of him. But from my perspective, he's the one always taking care of me. The things I do to help him are because I love him and I don't resent him for needing support. So I have to remind myself that he helps me for the same reasons. Because he wants to. If your partner wants to loves you and support you, then that's a choice they are making every day. There's no reason to question whether you deserve it or not, because they already made it clear with their actions that they think you are worth keeping in their life!

      • fizzylemonade

        594d

        @BulletproofRose thank you so much. all of the comments really help a lot 💗

    • Katharina

      594d

      This is what I’m afraid of. Knowing I can’t give my all even I tried. Feeling like my future partner will be more of a care taker then equal partner.

    • sky12

      595d

      I totally understand how you feel. When I feel this way I tend to push people away and it's not good. But the ones who truly love you will be there no matter how hard you push them away.

    • drl

      595d

      This happens to me too :( I can't go a day without getting upset for like no reason, I just feel unsure sometimes about our relationship just because of negative and false thoughts I have. I most of the time think: "Why do you love ME? There's better girls out there that will treat you better, and have a better personality."

    • Drewsdad08

      595d

      Well said stache. I suspect my wife has cheated on me but unsure still. I have anger issues almost every day. I dunno

      • fizzylemonade

        594d

        @Drewsdad08 oh god, i really hope you can find out something about that. wishing the best for your relationship 💗

    • stache

      595d

      I know how you feel. The first step in this is to love yourself. This is going to sound cliche but the one person who is never going away is yourself, so I have told myself I have to love and be there for that person (myself) because if I let myself get out of check and start bullying myself or being hard on myself I cannot escape the hurt. This is an ongoing battle I am facing aswell and it is the hardest battle because nobody can help you love yourself. I have lost so many relationships for being to hard on myself and I’m tired of it. Just know that you are worthy of love and you might not see how amazing you are but because they love you despite whatever you might think is unloveable, maybe you should give yourself a shot :)

      • fizzylemonade

        594d

        @stache thank you so much! this is amazing advice, it helped me a lot💗 means more than you would know

    • GrandLotus

      595d

      That can be a rough way to feel. You need to trust your partner’s decision. They’re choosing to be with you. I trust their judgment.

      • stache

        595d

        @GrandLotus this ^ I wish I would have saved myself so much pain if I just let them love me and tried to love myself

    • SharkBlood23

      595d

      I used to be like this alot. It really hard.

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