Feeling Broken: Struggles of Being Autistic in a Relationship

Hey girl, sending support ❤️ I relate a lot, I’ve been going through a lot the last year especially and trying to get my bf to understand how hard it’s been, especially while coming to terms with and learning to deal with the effects of my ASD. He’s generally been patient, but it causes some tension at times and (we’re long distance as well) we ended up hashing some of the stuff out when I was last visiting him, which was definitely for the best (all is good; we just ended up learning a crash course in patience, communication and compromising lol). It’s so hard to be that far away from someone you love as well, I feel you there. All I can say is that if someone loves you, they’ve got to love all of you. Ultimately, your autism is part of you, and in many ways it probably contributes to his favorite things about you! You wouldn’t be who you are without it after all, it’s just the way your brain is wired. But all the more difficult stuff about autism come with that- you can’t have one without the other. Someone out there is right for you, and will love you for every part of you. It may very well be your current boyfriend. But if your fears are true and he doesn’t like the unmasked you, he would be doing you a favor in revealing himself to you in that way. You deserve someone you can be 100% authentic with. And as far as missing home- I get that too. I studied overseas and am currently trying to go back, but it got really lonely at times, especially during the pandemic. Are there any activities or support groups you could join to gain community or do you have any sort of pre existing support system in place?