Rayray96

165d

What if your boyfriend or girlfriend that you're madly in love with stole from you what would you do would you call it quits and break up instantly or would give them another chance because you are in love with them

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  • Noname_

    165d

    For me, I’d want to know why they did it- do they have a problem that they can/will get help for (if it was something like addiction driving them to steal)? Were they in trouble and took without asking but planned to give/pay back? Or are they just plain old manipulative and took advantage of you?

  • Rayray96

    165d

    So basically you guys agree to give the person another chance even if it was money ?

  • wise

    165d

    don't just break up with them, file a police report too. even if it doesn't go anywhere, that report will be there and it'll show up if he gets picked up for a theft-related offense or if he does it to another partner in the future. you deserve better than a partner who steals from you and doesn't respect you or your property at all

    • Rayray96

      164d

      his record is pretty bad wish I knew before I meet him he just got out of jail for stealing multiple cars

      • Noname_

        163d

        yeah that doesn’t sound like an isolated lapse of judgment- you deserve better

      • busy_bee

        159d

        oh yeah jk I made a previous comment but based on this you should gtfo. My partner took some of my meds (rx). Ended up not being a huge issue. It was stimulants in college. That's SUPER different than stealing CARS. No second chances for that!

    • Rayray96

      164d

      so you think I should still file one even if it was a while ago ?

      • wise

        164d

        absolutely. make sure you're already moved out if you need to be and then go to the police. this behavior will only escalate and he's either stealing from you because he wants power over you or he's funding an illegal habit. please see a therapist ASAP also

  • schizoboy

    165d

    Screw em, If they're gonna steal from you there's a good chance they don't feel the same way

  • Cece7

    163d

    I would not put up with someone who takes money from me that would definitely be a huge red flag. I’ve known men who have used women before in that way, they got married, the man put them in crazy debt, then divorced and the woman was left paying for it as he did things in her name. Don’t let your whole future get impacted by this person!

    • Ladibug

      121d

      I’m in this situation now not sure how to recover

  • Officialishness

    159d

    Depends what it is honestly; I would (and have) have a serious decision where you ask them why they stole it rather than asking. And then tell them how it made you feel. Try to find a compromise on how to prevent similar problems going forward. How you act should depend on their demeanor. If you stay calm and they blow up or get really upset then it’s time to take back and reevaluate. But it’s important to try to have that confrontation when you are calm and level-headed so your partner doesn’t automatically get defensive, and also so you can come to a solution. Avoid saying “I know you took XYZ” and rather say “I saw XYZ was missing and I just want to know if you grabbed/needed/borrowed it.” If they are firmly denying they stole ot then try to stay calm and just reassure them that you’re willing to have a calm conversation about it when they are ready - if they are refusing to talk then I recommend keeping a close eye on the idem as much as you can and even hiding it if necessary. Overall depends on what it is; but try to avoid an accusatory tone and rather try to have an approachable conversation about it.

    • Officialishness

      159d

      (Judging by other comments I imagine they stole something of financial significance and they have a poor track record- when all else fails it’s best to leave. If it’s of high amount or something dangerous such as firearms, drugs, etc then file a report and try to distance yourself as much as possible. Most of all stay safe!)

  • SmileySnail

    120d

    I'm gonna say if they stole from you and hurt you they aren't as madly in love with you as they should be. It's not about the what was stolen or how much, even, it's the sheer disrespect. You don't need to deal with dishonesty from the closest people to you, it's not worth sticking around.

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