Stolen Love: Dealing with Betrayal in a Relationship

Depends what it is honestly; I would (and have) have a serious decision where you ask them why they stole it rather than asking. And then tell them how it made you feel. Try to find a compromise on how to prevent similar problems going forward. How you act should depend on their demeanor. If you stay calm and they blow up or get really upset then it’s time to take back and reevaluate. But it’s important to try to have that confrontation when you are calm and level-headed so your partner doesn’t automatically get defensive, and also so you can come to a solution. Avoid saying “I know you took XYZ” and rather say “I saw XYZ was missing and I just want to know if you grabbed/needed/borrowed it.” If they are firmly denying they stole ot then try to stay calm and just reassure them that you’re willing to have a calm conversation about it when they are ready - if they are refusing to talk then I recommend keeping a close eye on the idem as much as you can and even hiding it if necessary. Overall depends on what it is; but try to avoid an accusatory tone and rather try to have an approachable conversation about it.

I would not put up with someone who takes money from me that would definitely be a huge red flag. I’ve known men who have used women before in that way, they got married, the man put them in crazy debt, then divorced and the woman was left paying for it as he did things in her name. Don’t let your whole future get impacted by this person!

don't just break up with them, file a police report too. even if it doesn't go anywhere, that report will be there and it'll show up if he gets picked up for a theft-related offense or if he does it to another partner in the future. you deserve better than a partner who steals from you and doesn't respect you or your property at all