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LonerWolf

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Currently with a tug-of-war with feelings toward a guy who has hurt me. And I don’t know how to deal with it since he doesn’t know he’s hurt me or that I’ve had feelings for him in the past. We’ve been in touch a bit recently over text, but it’s been pretty much one-sided. I know I have control on my end to text or not text him, yet I keep feeling sorry for myself and still play the role of being a friend doing most of the reaching out. There’s a lot to explain but overall I’m just kinda going through the motions and feeling crappy about myself even though part of me knows I have value and that a guy doesn’t define that.

    • Jeezuskrys

      422d

      You've really answered your own question in that last statement. You have value, and he doesn't define that. I can't fathom your reasoning, or pain. I will say, you need to make it clear to him that you have feelings. Take this advice from a man, we do need to be told straight. If he doesn't know you like him, how does he know if he's hurt you? Most men are an oblivious breed for sure 😅. If he doesn't reciprocate the feelings, and it stays much of the same, you'll have your answer. Like you said, you have worth and someone will see it. I know all too well, this is all easier said than done, especially with social anxiety and depression, but we do need to step outside of our comfort zones every now and then. Like I said, know your worth. If you're not valuable to him, I guarantee you will be for someone else.

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It's normal to feel conflicted in situations like this. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and consider setting boundaries with the person who has hurt you. Remember that your value is not defined by a guy, and it's okay to take a step back from the situation to focus on yourself and heal.

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