Penpalz

62d

I'm so ashamed of myself!
I'm not emotionally, financially or physically able to live alone!
I feel terrible about myself right now!

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • dandelion_flower

    62d

    I'm so sorry. Please don't be ashamed that you're struggling. Everyone struggles in life, some more than others, but no matter what everyone's experience is valid. Not being able to live stably is especially common. many people go through this, and you're not alone. Hope things improve for you! I'm here if you need to talk 💕

  • Teardrops

    62d

    I am not able to either anymore. I pay rent to my parents that includes so much more that just having a room to live in. It’s a lot of things my parents still help me out with. I don’t have the money to go live on my own as the housing (apartments) are way too expensive. Not enough money to the. Buy food, pay for utilities, pay for a car payment, gas for the car, insurance for the car, pay on my credit cards. And everything else one needs to do to adult. I too am ashamed they I couldn’t do it. I am also ashamed that I have education but mentally and physically I have to work part time at a minimum wage job because of my health. I hate saying I work in retail sales. It’s like why did I go to school.

    • skooshy

      62d

      are your parents supportive of you? I really hope they are.

      • Teardrops

        62d

        most the time. They used to be harsh and emotional damaging but it’s gotten better.

  • cakefan

    62d

    Do not feel ashamed, many people cannot afford to live on their own, this goes for physically and emotionally too. There is no rule stating that we have to do all these things alone.

  • Nikki03

    62d

    I feel the same way. I feel like such a burden too. I don't even know what to do. I have nobody to talk to either. No one understands 😥

    • Penpalz

      62d

      I don't feel like a burden...my roommates are a burden to me...too loud and too many

      • skooshy

        62d

        I am really sorry your roommates are not considerate. That isn't fair to you.

    • skooshy

      62d

      I am always here to talk if you need to do so. You shouldn't have to feel alone and not have anyone to talk to about how you feel. I understand feeling like a burden and carrying the guilt that goes along with that.

    • sorenachy

      62d

      😥💕 we understand. And we are here for you.

  • stormer

    62d

    Please remember we are living in an inflation everything including rent is at an all time high. People with jobs of all kinds are struggling. Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm here for you if you need to talk.

  • sorenachy

    62d

    I make $30/hr and still struggle because I can only handle working part time. I went to school as well but I've never once done what I was educated for. I'm now a certified pharmacy technician and even though I can work anywhere in the country with this certification I can't afford to leave the job I have and start back down at the bottom. I live 45 miles away from where I work because I can't afford to move closer. It sucks.

    • Teardrops

      62d

      That does suck. Are you in a nice climate area or do you end up with snow and travel conditions are not good??

  • Phoenix.Afrodita

    62d

    I am sorry you’re in this situation; it’s tough. I know it can be challenging, but please extend yourself some compassion and grace. There are many factors that contribute to this kind of situation, and many of them tend to be out of our control. The truth is our current society is not set up to be supportive, and it’s become increasingly difficult just to cover our basic necessities in the last few decades. Housing is currently unaffordable and unavailable (inventory is being hoarded), and while prices keep rising, salaries haven’t been rising to match the inflation. Very few people are able to afford a home of their own nowadays, and most landlords take advantage by charging exorbitant prices for rent, and not taking care of the property on top of that. It’s also important to remember that we all need help at different points in life - and for different reasons - and the support systems that should be in place for us aren’t there. Human beings are a social species: we survive through society, which means we all need each other and are interdependent with one another. I am currently also living in someone else’s house because it’s the only rent I can afford. I would much prefer to be able to have a home of my own (and not being able to have this does make my recovery more difficult), but I am currently prioritizing my health and recovery from trauma, so I can actually build the life I want and thrive. It’s OK to take our time to heal and rest. Rest is vital and a birthright, and we all have our own rhythms and timing. I hope this helps. Please reach out if you feel like talking. Sending Love. 💖

  • Kelbel

    61d

    I feel that a lot of us are in the same boat. It is hard to support ourselves and our families financially. Don't beat yourself up over something you can't control.

  • Teardrops

    61d

    It’s gotten to a place where it is difficult to live alone on one income trying to afford place to live, accommodation lien lights and heat and phone, and Food!! It’s way too expensive. Guess it depends on what you are willing to live with and without. I don’t do will with roommates. So I live with my parents.

  • Quirky4You

    61d

    I’m sorry for all the above struggles including my own. This time of year for me heightens all of my physical & mental ailments but I still do suffer throughout the year. I must admit I am grateful for the few people I have in my life and my gratitude runs deep. Prayers 🙏 for everybody! I’m available here if anybody wants to communicate as well. 🫶

  • IceGoddess

    61d

    Don't feel ashamed. I can't keep myself alive by myself. I may have the physical capability but mentally I can't do it. We aren't suppose to be this independent. It is just capitalist propaganda. We are social beings

    • Quirky4You

      61d

      it’s tough to be by yourself, however you are correct we are social beings (some more than others) and I believe not meant to be alone!

  • BeanBetter

    61d

    You're okay, do what you need to do and then find out how to work on yourself

  • Keweenawqueen

    59d

    I am 29 and still live with my parents. Please don’t feel ashamed. You didn’t ask for the hand you were dealt. You deserve support. Please don’t hold yourself to the same “standards” as non chronically ill people, or those who don’t struggle with their mental health. There’s so much pressure in this world, go at the pace your mind and body are allowing you to. Family and friends there for these hard times. Also it’s SO EXPENSIVE to just breathe on this planet, even if you can work 40hours let alone anything else. You’re doing the best you can in a world that set you up to fail🥰💙

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