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gabbs

689d

got diagnosed with hsv-1 after i was raped, got it from him and i feel miserable. feel like my life is over bc one guy decided it was okay to take advantage of me the way he did, idk how to cope with this

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    • Shebear13

      679d

      I agree with shadowmyth and Skywalker

    • Shebear13

      679d

      I agree with shadowmyth and Skywalker

    • Skywalker

      683d

      I have been there in a similar place. But.... it's just a place you're at right now. It's not a good time to reach down the line to your future. Attend to your ideas of the future AFTER you find the next step in your healing journey. I bet you'll get to that next step somehow, it'll just come to you...but only after you just feel like shit for a while and that's 100% okay, nothing wrong with you. And it can suck really bad...I get it...But just know that bit by bit, the shit and the smell washes and trickles away...and when it does the picture of your future, like a shy bunny, becomes clearer and more defined as it nudges it's way towards your limp but outstretched hand. Don't rush into your idea of the future when you're down there, it'll take care of itself sometime, and whoever is controlling the universe is honestly going to have your back on this one. Just let yourself be down, like sooo down. Get down and down (without triggering your herpes😂😳)...express the pain anger whatever...until you can't fathom another way to express what your feeling. This life will present the opposite eventually. This life is full of cycles like that. Right now...you're meant to feel down because dammit youre human and that's just what we were made to do. If you resist feeling like shit then you resist being human. So get down and don't look to the future just yet. Get pissed off and throw rocks into a lake. Flip off strangers if it's a healing thing for you. Kick a puppy, no no no just kidding, don't kick puppies, but listen to Pink's angry music, listen to John Denver's depressed music, sing in a private place, learn a piano song that you can't play without bawling your way through it. I did that. My song was "forever and almost always" by Kate voegle. And then one day I got weird and entered a backyard night party in my pajamas and I sang karaoke in front of a bunch of strangers and bawled in front of a bunch of people who actually clapped for me...and I wasn't drunk. It was killer. They could feel me. And it was okay!! Because they know, you know? And I know too, friend. And if I don't know, then there is a God above who knows.....but one piece of advise is that scrolling social media isn't a great way to let out the feels. I just find it aggravated it. And if music or puppies or driving fast (speed limit please, but I'm fairly certain cops don't watch the back country dirt roads in certain states....farmers will though....) or if throwing black and sparkly purple paint at a canvas with a barbie doll head is not your thing, then get some frogs and teach them Aerosmith and tell them to scream it out... Like am I going too far? I'm going to far lol....but...the point is, you just focus on those feels for now and know it's ok to get weird and do whatever. The thing I've found is you'll be proud of yourself...and I don't understand why, but anyway, that's my advise. I really am sorry if my advise sucks. If I was a friend sitting by you I'd give a lot worse advise though.

    • shadowmyth

      688d

      First of all, I am so sorry that someone hurt you that way. You did not deserve that and it’s not your fault. I am not good at advice because I’m more of a listener, so feel free to message anytime, but a bit of advice here is to try to find some counseling if you can, if you can’t for whatever reason, then please reach out to me or someone, I am not a professional but I believe having someone to talk to can save your life, it has saved mine before. I hate to sound clichĂ© and tell you that it gets easier, because it’s still really really hard for me (I’m 7 months in as of yesterday), but you adapt in some way. Support is incredibly important and helps your mental healing much faster than doing it alone, trust me. The mental toll is the worst part of this and much scarier alone. Sending you so much love and strength. You’re brave to talk about what happened to you and how you’re feeling, even anonymously, that’s hard, and you’re very strong to do so.

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

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