I think about an ex that abused me from time to time. The important and hardest part to take from it, is how you deserve to be loved. You are worth so much more than they were willing to give. So don't forget them, feel the pain of the moment, talk it through. Don't try to shove it away, you don't grow from that. It's been a little over a year for me and several dates later and I still fight the wounds I received. It's not a fast or easy process but it does make you wiser and you'll come out stronger and happier in future prospects.