Struggling with Family Dynamics

Honestly honey you're still a child ( to me anyways) and you don't need to be involved in their relationship. Try sitting him down and having a talk with him. Tell him that he's the parent and your the child and your NOT going to be involved in any part of their relationship and if he has a problem he should take it up with your mother not you. You're not responsible for anyone else's feelings but your own so if he feels like you don't like him that's on him not you. It's not fair to you that he trying to put you in the middle of it and saying those things to you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Sending love and positive vibes your way ❤️❤️

You are not wrong at all. I'm 42 and I still tell my dad to leave me out of any arguments or issues that he has with my mom. They've been divorced for 40 years but he still loves her. I actually avoid my dad because things are not the greatest between us. He was abusive when I was growing up.

It is not your job to protect your dad from your mom. They are adults and should be supporting you. Divorce is messy and tensions run high. Even if both parties agree the divorce is the best option it’s a tough adjustment for everyone involved. Feeling like a failure and lonely and lots of other emotions. Have you tried telling your dad what it makes you feel when he puts you in the middle? Do you have a friend or other family member you can spend a night or two with to get a break?

Step back and put yourself in your Dad's shoes for just a moment, maybe he's going through depression too and he's lashing out at you because we always lash out at the ones closest to us.

I agree with you, this is not your problem to get involved with. I went through similar from age 15-20. You are a child & your parents should be supporting you, not being in you down so you experience stress because of their adult problems. I’m sorry you are experiencing this because stress exacerbates Fibromyalgia and mental health regression. Do you have a counselor/therapist to discuss with because as you know you can only change your response. maybe have a session including parents so you can express yourself to them with a mental health professional’s guidance may be helpful.